abusive relationships

Hi blog family!

I saw that a young lady was gunned down by her baby's father yesterday and thought i should go over relationships-one more time, (1st was with Rhianna and Chris Brown).

I will give MY views on early signs of an abuser...or mate/friend that is NOT good for you! 

1st. in ANY relationship....no one should be yelling at you!!!
 have ears to hear and God made you a voice to use and a mind to use...
2. checking your phone, want to know who is calling, why, when--even family!!!
3. showing up in places you did not invite them too!! stalker
4. asking over and over the same question, where were you etc....interrogation!!!
5. telling you insults- how "ugly, stupid, fat, lazy etc..... repeatedly!!! trying to put you down (at first they may not do it the first date but if you listen, usually you will see a sign the 1st day!!!!!!! (think back real hard)..
6. Pushing, shoving, hitting, etc... NO ONE has a right to put their hands on you!!! Even if you are caught in a situation with another mate---NO one should EVER hit you (if you are DEFENDING/PROTECTING yourself, that is different!!! You are a human being and you were made DIFFERENT than animals because YOU have a MOUTH!!!! Talking is how you solve problems, not violence and anyone who says different, RUN!!!! This world is lacking love and understanding and until we realize WAR of ANY kind NEVER solves problems... we will always be back at square one!!

Think: if war solved problems or fighting--why does it produce revenge  and hatred that last for hundreds of years (Israel and Palestine, just ONE example)...
war / fighting never solves anything DO NOT waste your precious life fighting anyone or being in the company of violent beings!!! xoxo
You are special and loved- smile, someone is watching you!!!!! Tanya

May 18th celebration!

Hi blog family!

been very busy planning May 18th. I will post event but you know two things about me: my spell check works at will and 2nd...i am not tech savvy!! I can admit this because not every thing is for everybody!! I know my lane, which is speaking and creating, and I stay in it!! I want those that live in NY to come out and help me raise awareness, (in our Westchester area), on foster care! I will be reminding you again. RSVP is required!!
Today go out and take a long walk. meditate on all the good in your life NOW and the good that will COME into your life as you think positive from today on...xo smile someone is watching you because you are a star!! (SHINE)..:)

Tanya

What is true happiness? The Dali Lama says...

Hi blog family!


I was enjoying the rain today, as the earth needs to be cleansed every now and again. I am always on a quest for inner peace, love, happiness and how to help others without any purpose, reason or gain. I know just my being happy doing it is a gain, so I wonder can I truley help others without "wanting" anything? While I was reading I came upon this, written by the Dali Lama on his site...these are NOT my words, but as I search and find answers, I will share them with you. We must find our divine purpose and help each other any way we can. So I ask: What is true happiness?


True happiness comes from having a sense of inner peace and contentment, 
which in turn must be achieved by cultivating altruism,
 love and compassion,
 and by eliminating anger, 
selfishness
 and greed. 


- Dali Lama

What have you done today for a brighter future

hi blog family!

I sit here looking out of my window-seeing all the beauty the universe has in my one little corner of the world!

I am grateful for my life, my family and for the fact that I can create change in an instant with my thoughts and actions!

I ask you, what have you done today to ensure your future will be brighter than your parents?

Have you taken steps to start therapy or started a journal to release mixed feelings, hatred or anger?

Have you looked deep into your soul and discovered what will truly make you happy?

Have you found your gift that God gave to you? (sing, dance, read, write, preach, fixing things, creating etc..)

Have you worked on those gifts so that they could make you money and prepare you for a future without working for others-if you are not happy in your current work?

I hope you are not just letting life pass you by-you will not only miss out on all life has for you, but I believe by you not developing your talent/gift-the universe misses out on you as well. This life is about ALL of us and what we contribute. It can only get better if YOU make it that way!

You may have changed a kids mind that wanted to join a gang-because you taught an art class and showed him/her how to use their talent...

You may have saved someone from drowning-because you always liked the water and was the best swimmer and became a life guard...

you may have went out of the house today--stopped being a hermit--and smiled at a homeless man today---making him feel special and a need to get out of his situation....

You never know who's life you will touch, but you must find your voice, talent and gift==and then go help others with it. Sometimes it will not be obvious to you but you make a difference in this universe!

Please prepare and stay focused--it is never too late to follow your dream or discover your talent--go help change or save a life--the universe is waiting-Tanya

when you are faced with evil.

Hi blog family! this pic- The top of Paris- Soc le Cour- (spelling may be off) lol.....
my favorite place to meditate, early in the morning!!

I had a great memorial day for my brother Rob, thanks for all of you who supported me!


My soul is feeling heavy today.

I usually donot watch TV-because I feel it is only there to program you to think a certain way-buy this, do that-she's pretty-she''s not-he's cute etc... But I was watching something that showed how evil some people in the world are and how they will do anything and use anyBODY to promote that evil entity!
My word to you today....
you have to find peace in yourself no matter what you have went through!!

If you were ever abused in ANY way, if you were neglected, abandoned, whatever- you must learn to meditate! 
Go on google and type in the word- whatever you must learn this to center yourself and quiet yourself when the world is going through chaos- especially if you watch tv.

What is the first thing on the news?? BAD news, the first 3 minutes gives you the lineup!
 All we hear is people killing, dying or being opressed, no stories of you and I saving or changing lives, no stories of our kids NOT doing drugs or not hanging with the "popular" crowd-and no stories ofgood people or good things!!!
SO what can you do? 
1. stay focused- the goal is to better YOURSELF so that you can help OTHERS in need!
2. Meditate- if your mind is not right-nothing can come togeather!
3. click off the tv, radio's, stop buying magazines that promote celebrity gossip or images that don't look anything like YOU or ME!!!
especially if you have kids in your home, if a show is not INCLUSIVE of ALL colors- don't allow them to watch- they will feel less than because they are bombarded with images of big breast, long hair, and "sexy"- why do you think they want to "change" themselves??

 My kids were not allowed to watch tv until they were 5- and now they don't watch often because they know it's all made to make you buy buy buy !! If you want to entertain them-play checkers or scramble!! forgot what that was didn't cha??? lol
4. stay true to yourself-the people are always lying and changing truth-so you have to search for YOUR truth, know it and don't let anyone-anytime, change that !! The universe gave you a 6th sense-use it!
5. take long walks-it sends oxygen to the brain and really helps clear the mind- walking is how I prepare my best speeches!! and it helps the heart- remember- you are what you eat and you should eat to live-not because there is food. when shopping: if it was not here with Adam and Eve--don't buy it!! you will save thousands in grocery bill!!!
lastly, listen to the universe and your spirit guide- they let you know what it needs and what you need, use your gut instinct to listen in silence and act accordingly. If you have to force yourself to do something-it was not meant to do it- all things meant to be SHOULD come naturally, without great effort someone once said.


We only have one life, one chance to make a change in ourselves and the world, what impact will you have BEFORE you leave??
xo- you are special with purpose-go change the world-now!!

Enery is flowing, where your attention is going..

Hi blog family!

I have been watching the DVD the secret, again!!!

"Energy flows, where attention goes."- by one of the speakers in the DVD.
They also said "Mother Teresa said: "Don't invite me to a anti-war rally, I will attend a Peace rally."

Both of these quotes are SO vital to you changing your way of thinking!
If you grew up in foster care, you spent alot of time worrying....now you need to refocus on all the things in life you WANT to happen!

Write down all the things you want in your life: love, happiness, good health, car, job, $, whatever, DONOT write down anything that you don't want, only what you want and only the good things:

Say them in present tense and be specific: I can't wait to pick up my Mercedes or I want $20, 000 extra income before the year ends..(they say make it realistic to your talent, life, situation...)

LISTEN when it's time to take ACTION!! this is the number one reason for failure on your plan, you don't listen to your instinct..(also could  known as the universe or your spirit guide). The "thing" that tells you an idea, (write a book, make a piece of jewelry like no one else, sing like no one else, clean like no one else, organize..etc), this thing inspires you to do whatever your gift is better than anyone else and you end up creating something amazing....only to ignore it... for example: everyone says you have the best voice..and you wrote songs that everyone likes....problem: your friend wants you to be in his band...but you make excuses and never join....they become big and genereate money from it.....now you lost out because you did not listen to you, (this is only one example). Point: you must take action when your instinct is telling you to do something creative- sing, write, dance, organize, invent, create, travel, --even if your life is not going where you want it to go--CHANGE IT!!

We are all in charge of our own life--If you hate your job, look for another or create a job for yourself that brings in money.....you spend 40 hours a week helping your company be #1 why not invest in your own?

If you want a new mate....drop the old one, take a chance on being alone, you cannot attract a new mate until you rid yourself of old first!
If you want your kids to be "better", show them how, take them to the museum, show them the world, not your local area, talk to them kinder, you are the parent, teach them well and they will come back to that teaching...
The point is put your energy on all the things you want in your life NOT what you don't want, like the secret says: you are just attracting more of what you don't want when you think, speak or act on those things...xo Tanya

What have you done to bring about peace of self and others?

Hi Blog family! I love this picture, the top of Paris! great place to reflect on peace...

I hope you are well, as I sit here this morning in silence, I am grateful for life, grateful, that today, i could help save or change someone elses life! I will just share a poem with you today as I am getting ready to go and support Latasha C. Watts & her purple project event: National Youth Conference" this weekend in Ohio! Wish her the best because she is a person who is willing to share her story and found a forum to help kids in foster care, Big applause for such a great young lady!!

Life means nothing if you cannot bring peace and love to others......xo

listening to the birds-slight wind, water or cars in a distant, enjoying the peaceful sounds - I am wondering how can I be a catalyst for peace? I will go out and be of service to others today, yes, that's what I will do!!

What Do you have on your mind??

Good morning to all! What a night!
alot on the brain can drain you.
When you have alot of things on your plate at one time, STOP! BREATH! LISTEN!
yes, listen, the universe is trying to tell you something!
If we are always rushing and filled with anxiety, how can you hear your good message for the day?
YOU CAN'T! quiet your mind, turn off the tv, radio, (and people)....go somewhere quiet, take a walk by some water or trees... recenter yourself, that is the key to easing the mind.
When you are in a chaotic state, it is because you allowed all the chaos to take over.
YOU ARE ALWAYS IN CHARGE, even when it does not seem like it on the outside. It takes one mind shift to change our mental circumstance, DON't let chaos win! You are always in control because it is your mind, use it or lose it!! hey, have a blessed day, and if no one told you, you are loved and special, Tgirl
if you have any questions or need encouragement email me with foster kid in the title tgirlcooper@yahoo.com