advice for the day

hi blog family!

just some advice today: Stay on your toes, focus and enjoy the day meditating and thinking: how can I make this day better than yesterday? Who can I be of service to ..remember helping others takes you out of your problems for a minute and lets you see--your not alone in this wonderful world filled with challenges and adventure at every turn! Enjoy the day-you are loved, needed and if you smile, you may save or change a life today!!! xo Tanya

book link AND self love

Hi blog family-

My book is finally available!! https://www.createspace.com/3587372

any agency that buys more than 50 copies- i will come and do a book signing AND Free workshop--just get me there!!!

Ok i am still searching for a publisher- but if you know me, that cannot stop me from sharing this book with the 450,000 or so teens in foster care! 

Never let anyone or anything stop your message or pure intention to help save or change a life!!!!

I speak to all of you today, in group home, left, foster parent...teach our kids to LOVE themselves and to HELP others who may be in the same situation.....other foster kids! Reach one teach one- the system only gets better when WE help each other and take control of our lives--mentally and physically!!!

We all have divine purpose, as i often say, what is yours? How can your agency or foster parents help you find your purpose? By: listening--you talking about painting, biking, singing etc... all the time,  when a kid practices something on his/her own ALL the time...chances are they are going toward that purpose...

understand that my gift is not your gift so there is NEVER any competition!! What you do- you do- what I do- I do...Mariah Carey sings different than Adel...but both are brilliant and touch many souls with their singing.....you get the point

Listen to YOU - Parents- listen to your child- teach your child to listen and follow their own instincts...it will lead them to their true gift, which will help them fulfill their divine purpose!!

You are loved, special and needed by this universe to do something great!!! smile, someone is watching you!! xo Tanya

how can i use the secret-Wallace Wattles

Hi blog family!
I admit, i am a lover of the book and DVD-the secret! While i always had the faith of a mustard seed, i had these principles-and did not know why. You must be informed of ANY information that may open your mind and help you grow as a person, so that you may focus on enjoying this life!! so I am reading (for free)  the principles of getting rich..by Wallace Wattles...this is the guy who inspired the Secret! Anything i post that is someone elses work, I try to give credit. I ONLY post it because if it is good for me, it should be good for you. I don't think i waste your time with nonesense, you could be doing other great things...thanks for visiting here is some info, i will find the link and post for you to read all of it!! Start thinking now that you deserve to be rich like everyone else, don't settle or listen to pastors that tell you you will get rich in "heaven"....you deserve it NOW and it is NOT bad to want the finer things in life-if you are working for them honestly!! have a great day!! smile, someone is...watching you!! you are loved, divine and special!! xo

me." You cannot exercise much power without gratitude; for it is gratitude that keeps you connected with Power.

But the value of gratitude does not consist solely in getting you more blessings in the future. Without gratitude you cannot long keep from dissatisfied thought regarding things as they are.

The moment you permit your mind to dwell with dissatisfaction upon things as they are, you begin to lose ground. You fix attention upon the common, the ordinary, the poor, and the squalid and mean; and your mind takes the form of these things. Then you will transmit these forms or mental images to the Formless, and the common, the poor, the squalid, and mean will come to you.

To permit your mind to dwell upon the inferior is to become inferior and to surround yourself with inferior things.

On the other hand, to fix your attention on the best is to surround yourself with the best, and to become the best.

The Creative Power within us makes us into the image of that to which we give our attention. We are Thinking Substance, and thinking substance always takes the form of that which it thinks about.

The grateful mind is constantly fixed upon the best; therefore it tends to become the best; it takes the form or character of the best, and will receive the best.

Also, faith is born of gratitude. The grateful mind continually expects good things, and expectation becomes faith. The reaction of gratitude upon one's own mind produces faith; and every outgoing wave of grateful thanksgiving increases faith. He who has no feeling of gratitude cannot long retain a living faith; and without a living faith you cannot get rich by the creative method, as we shall see in the following chapters.

It is necessary, then, to cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you; and to give thanks continuously.

And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.

Do not waste time thinking or talking about the shortcomings or wrong actions of plutocrats or trust magnates. Their organization of the world has made your opportunity; all you get really comes to you because of them.

Do not rage against corrupt politicians; if it were not for politicians we should fall into anarchy, and your opportunity would be greatly lessened.

God has worked a long time and very patiently to bring us up to where we are in industry and government, and He is going right on with His work. There is not the least doubt that He will do away with plutocrats, trust magnates, captains of industry, and politicians as soon as they can be spared; but in the meantime, behold they are all very good. Remember that they are all helping to arrange the lines of transmission along which your riches will come to you, and be grateful to them all. This will bring you into harmonious relations with the good in everything, and the good in everything will move toward you.

what does clothes have to do with this-dressing for success!

Hi blog family!!

FOR THOSE IN CARE
I am fuming a little today. why? well look at this! Foster children would be allowed to get clothing only from second hand stores | Michigan Messenger

look at my face!!! but my lips are not shut!!!

This senator done lost his mind!!
 he wants our "divine children" (that is you), shopping at second hand stores only?? 
OK I LOVE thrift,
 so i am not arguing that you can find some fabulous items--especially designer--at a lower price...(depending on where you live..NY, LA, PARIS, MN....) 


BUT who is he to "save money" when it comes to raising our future kings and queens---YOU!! ?? this is a case of turning your anger into something positive... i am mad BUT i am going to give you a tip my foster mother gave me, even though i do workshops on this...because of this guy..you get this information now...so listen up...
 To all of my young people who may still be in a group home or foster home, remember: 
how you dress- DOES MAKE  A DIFFERENCE!!! 


GUYS:
Learn to pull up your pants and throw on a button up shirt when your going for a job or college interview!! you could do "metro"..meaning shirt, dress pant, and nice leather shoe/boot..
Ladies:
 lower that skirt a little and button up your blouse so "nothing" skin wise is showing!!
 Guys: 
put on a "shoe or shoe boot (docksiders), even Clark's could work or wallaby's if they are leather but DO NOT wear sneakers or timberlands..(unless it was a construction job or carpenter helper!!! 
Ladies:
...no stelleto's (high heal) only a small heal and let the color be black or navy blue..you can also get away with a pair of slacks, a blouse and a blazer or just the blouse ..if it's nice and elegant enough..we are NOT acting flirtatious, we are acting like we are an asset (a plus) to the company....
not like we will make the company look bad...your reputation is everything on the streets--
well it is everything when your a foster kid, like I was, trying to make it in a world where alot, (not all) of people had parents teach them how to dress, talk, act and had contacts ...
we don't usually have that luxery so we have to step up our game on how we act when we are out in the community---
when you age out or have to move, if you left a good reputation--you can come back to your town, (like i did years later)...and get a job or apartment..
BECAUSE when you left, you left with a good reputation and everyone not only knew you, but thought you were respectful, honest and a good person!! 


HOW PEOPLE SEE YOU, very important!! IF you have a bad reputation now...change it!! 
it will not help you get into college, find the right mate, or get a job!!


(If your under 17...they may let you slide), but i am telling you how to get the job over anyone else---DRESS for success!! (this also works for finding your mate, friends, jobs, college, whatever!!)
If you cannot afford nice  clothes--it does NOT matter--how you put it together and the fact that you are "CLEAN with a good attitude--that's what counts! 


If your group home ever needs me to come and speak to you about dressing and acting for success, I would love to come hit me....with a message!! this is what I do!!! I help you because someone, (many people) helped me!! So i "pay it forward"...(ps. that is a good movie you should ask your counselor to get that)...


for those that left foster care


this all apply's to you accept now you are out of care. 
If you are on a job, you want to stay there so stay sharp not only in dress but all the latest computers, faxes, machines, get to know it all!! 
The more you know..skills u have... in a company, the less likely you will be "laid off".. 
example: if your the only one that knows how to do payroll or other major functions...it makes it harder to let you go if they NEED you, they can only need you if you know ALL the functions that are important to that company!


Smiling and making a difference by contributing to a project...not complaining..


if you are at home with no job,
 its time to get up...atleast 4 days a week, go to the library, sign up for the computer, and redo your resume and your look..


 you dont have to buy new clothes, just look in the magazines to see how you can hook up the outfit..belf, jewelry, scarf, jacket...


whatever you do--stay away from depression...its a mind killer....always tell yourself that you are it" you are worthy and you are special--because you are!! read Anthony Robbins or youtube him!! you will learn something!! 
Watch the DVD the secret..Rhona byrn..
Stay positive and stay in the "know" dont just sit and wait for a job...go get it!! it may take time but with perserverance, hard work and good attitude and networking, you can find one!! 


good luck...and dressing for success, does matter!! 
xo Tanya
smile, someone is watching you, you may save or change a life with that smile!!

what is YOUR grade-making your holidays better

hi blog family!
Hope you are enjoying your vacation if your in school...and still keeping your mind fresh reading a new book every month (atleast)...
and if your not in school but left foster care, I hope you are building a new "Holiday" ritual for yourself and your future family...that means whatever you hated about the holidays...(no family, no home visits, no one to visit etc...)..
YOU are now in charge to do whatever you want.
.today my kids and I went to the Brooklyn museum then a friend took us to eat Mexican dinner..
then we walked around Brooklyn..this is OUR holiday..
 it could be in church sunday and then dinner,
it could be sitting at your house with you cooking or potluck, everyone brings something to eat...
most important...you enjoy that time as "family or "friends that are like family...
whatever as long as YOU enjoy it and stop saying "I hate holidays"....most people hate them because it did not go the way they wanted in childhood---fix it, this is your life, you can fix issues like bad holidays and make it better ..if you have no family...find GOOD friends who really care about you, and celebrate with them!!! Angels are waiting everywhere to help you find your destiny!!xo Tanya

I will leave you with something my friend Tar wrote (gotta give credit)..but first.... know that you are loved and special...and the world NEEDS you to stay on your A game...without YOU this world will be different!! smile, someone is watching you!

If YOU evaluated your last week... how would YOU rate it. How did YOU advance yourself? What did YOU learn? Did YOU help anyone else other than yourself? What are YOU doing to develop into the Person YOU always wanted to be? Settling should never be an option! I give myself a C+... I can do better. If YOU can't be honest with yourself... what kind of future do you expect?- taken from my friend Tar

our records?

I saw this on legallykidnapped.com VERY important, you can look back on your records to see how you have grown and what you need to work on OR how some of the information in your records no longer apply...especially when you were first taken from your home!. We should be careful what is written...it may harm children later...xo smile, someone is watching you! May 18th Mount Kisco Library!!

House: Foster Kids Must Get Records Faster

Responding to a Texas Tribune article about young adults who age out of foster care being denied their records, House lawmakers passed a bill today to require the prompt release of case files following a child's discharge from foster care.

Note: Yeah! Give the kids the evidence of your fraud> I mean: give the kids their records! My God! 

this too shall pass

http://youtu.be/8MMIsg9RyGo


go to the youtube video for: 
this too shall pass...xo Tanya


nothing good or bad last forever, so if times are hard or even unbarabel, hold on, the sun will shine and whatever you are going through will get better, meditate, pray and walk with your head up. You are loved, special and needed!! xo Tanya

May 18th celebration!

Hi blog family!

been very busy planning May 18th. I will post event but you know two things about me: my spell check works at will and 2nd...i am not tech savvy!! I can admit this because not every thing is for everybody!! I know my lane, which is speaking and creating, and I stay in it!! I want those that live in NY to come out and help me raise awareness, (in our Westchester area), on foster care! I will be reminding you again. RSVP is required!!
Today go out and take a long walk. meditate on all the good in your life NOW and the good that will COME into your life as you think positive from today on...xo smile someone is watching you because you are a star!! (SHINE)..:)

Tanya

Taking HS Students to Visit Colleges

Taking HS Students to Visit Colleges

if you are graduating or have a kid that may be and perhaps you live in a economically challenged area--please check out my friend Joe's page- he is brilliant having taught in Africa to the South Bronx, this guy is a GREAT teacher and human being, if more people were like him, the world of education and would be equal for ALL...If my child could have this guy teach all of the subjects i would switch her to his school-no matter where it was! Please check him.. for those that aged out and have teens: you should have started a college account when your kids where born. If you did not go to the bank or charles swchab investment type place and ask them what you need to put in every month, what interest you will get and what that amount will be when its time.. Most of us who leave foster care have no resources or tools to have "saved" for our kids college, unfortunatly, we usually did not "plan" our family...which is ok,,,all life has divine meaning and purpose so our kids--even when borned unplanned or out of wedlock--are NEVER an accident!! and they are always a blessing - especially if we are training them to GIVE back to the world and not TAKE or ABUSE it or the people in it.

No matter what, EDUCATION is key for a foster kids success, so read anything you can on improving your life, your kids life or another life!! smile someone is watching you!

Tanya

the article is by Joe Ballou

Report: Tennessee foster-care children need help especially those who are too old for system :: The Republic

Report: Tennessee foster-care children need help especially those who are too old for system :: The Republic

I mentioned in my book about sibilings.. with fb and skpe, there is no reason brother's and sisters should not be interacting- Unless one abused the other...No kid should have to be friendly to an abuser of ANY kind, not acceptable!! Everything else, you can work with!

Action

hi blog family!!

May is National Foster kids month! I will be kicking it off with a scholorship ceremony! Somone aging out of foster care will recieve The Robert Cooper memorial scholorship! If your in town, don't miss it- May 18th...The Mount Kisco public library- 4:30pm

So i thought I would find encouraging words for you today or something to make you think..here is one..


‎"A real decision is measured by the fact that you've taken a new action. If there's no action, you haven't truly decided." ~Tony Robbins


have a great day, and smile, someone is watching you!! You may save or change a life! Tanya

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Remember: health is most important- all health, take a look at Dr. Mercola video! Smile, someone is watching you!!

May 18th - National fosterkids month celebration!! RSVP 100 main street 2nd floor, Mount Kisco, NY 10549 - I will be speaking sharing my experience in foster care and raising awareness in Westchester about foster care, awarding The Robert Cooper Memorial schlorship and sharing my book for teens: Suriving foster care and making it work for you!! "IT takes a village to raise a child!"

What can YOU do to create positive change

Hi blog family!!

May is National Foster Kids month!!

After thinking for a long time I decided two things:
1. If you want something done- do it yourself
2. Don't wait for fame, fortune or others to take action, be like NIKE, JUST DO IT!!

 Have you ever wanted to help people so bad but you were not really in a position to do so?

 I often think how can I help, when I myself am not where i want to be?
 Well I thought about it and taking action will sometimes cause a REaction, that will turn into what you wanted!
Sometimes, after being in foster care for so long not only do you have to re-learn how to make decisions, but you must also learn to act on your gut and trust it will steer you to your goal.

 Always wanted to help kids in foster care.
When I was younger I wanted to be famous like Johnny Carson or Lucielle Ball, not for vanity but because I saw that EVERYONE wants to help a star!
I also saw that people made things happen when you are known.
Oprah was able to build a school!!
Jay-Z built a water irrigation system in a remote part of Africa!!
Mother Teressa helped the orphans of Calcutta!
 When I was younger, that was the power of fame!

Now that I am (a little):) bit older...and  wiser, I realize I could still help kids in foster care.
The universe is MY experience (meaning yours), which means I have many mistakes to make but I also was given many talents and skills.
 I learned that I can help kids right now with no money down!!!
For years I thought I could not make a change without money or fame, I cried alot thinking I did not want another kid in foster care to feel depressed, lonely,  or feeling less than,  for years I was wrong.....
Since I realized this I have:

written a self help book for foster Teens
created 3 workshops just to deal with issues faced in care
traveled around the states speaking to hundreds of kids!
saved and changed a few lives....which was my original goal!!

Lesson: you can make positive change in ANYTHING you see that is NOT right, just make a plan and start doing it, don't contemplate if a message came from your heart to help others, just take action, the universe will send you angels to help you see it through, but first you must start!! WE all have gifts and talents, imagine if we "reach one teach one"...."what a wonderful world" (two fav quotes)
xo Tanya
ps. smile, someone may be watching you and your smile may save or change a life!!!