Holiday blues..how to not lose YOUR mind when life is crazy!

R.I.P little brother!

Hi blog family! After two years I am still missing my brother! The pain gets less but I imagine it will never sink in that he is gone so young! Forgive me for not writing, as I am facing many challenges!
Yes,
it has been a while but life and all its curve balls has been calling me!

I am older and wiser but i still have my days when one error could effect me.
There are days when life can be challenging without family and I want you to know it is NOT your imagination - life is ruff - especially without a family!

Even at my age, I still long for a family. I still hope to be adopted one day-- yes, even over 40!!

 It is a human factor to want to  be loved and to be part of a family unit....this never goes "away"- you only learn to live with  the feeling and talk yourself through it daily! lol....hey if you made it this far without family, you can learn to love you enough and surround yourself around people who love and honor you like family!

On another note
the holidays are hear.
This is the highest times for suicide and loneliness.
*Even people with family who may have had conflict, wish they could be home with love ones*

.... I want you to know that even when you feel lonely and the world is against you God will always be by your side, all you have to do is BELIEVE tomorrow will be better than today!
Faith of a muster seed!
I know some of you may have been in group homes all of your life, some may have been in dysfunctional homes but YOU are the master of your destiny by keeping faith and coming up with an alternative plan! Whatever the plan, failure is not an option, giving up is not on the list!!! God did not design you to "give up"!!!

Don't ever be so discouraged that you don't realize YOU ARE IT! 
Don't ever hurt YOURSELF or ANYONE, life is too short and we ALL have divine purpose, so don't take away another's purpose, they may be the one who saved or changed a life!
 Your the reason the stars shine at night
the reason your brother, 
sister, lover, 
friend, family,
 stranger, 
has a smile on their face. 
You are the reason someone is alive today! 
Don't ever forget your ancestors died to make sure you ENJOY this life NOW, today!!!!
I know the holidays are here and it can be sad if you have no one around, I am lucky to have my two kids. I decided to make the holidays a day to go feed the homeless and then enjoy a nice dinner. This year may be all you can do to get out of your funk--HELP OTHERS...help at a food bank for the day!! Trust me you will feel better and be inspired!


Bills may be piling up, your lover gone, the news may be violent, everyone wants to keep up with the Joneses and no one has faith anymore- but you- YOU are the ONE that will change or save a life!
Stay positive, focused and keep anger out of your life, ask God to give you peace, acceptance, and constant change and growth so that you may be of service to others. You are so wonderful have a blessed week and know God is with you at ALL times, even at your darkest hour - have faith and take action to create change! xo Tanya

save the date May 19th....Fosterkidsunite will be awarding The Robert Cooper Memorial scholarship to kids aging out of foster care! Location: Mt. Kisco/NY time:TBA  all foster kids, former foster kids, community residents and any other who love to help others are invited to join in, more to come!!

feeing down?

Soc Le Cour (this is the top of Paris, once you climb those stairs and look down you feel like you are on top of the world--YOU ARE--everyday if you believe it!!!
hi blog family!!!
I know the holidays are among us and this is a hard time for anyone without family OR anyone who did not get the holiday love and peace they deserved as a child. THis is a time where many take their own lives or may do more drugs or high risk behavior things.
I write to you today to encourage you to stay strong and know that YOU have divine purpose!! Yes, I say it often but i say it in truth. How do I know?
 How could you be so divine with so many problems to face in this life?? YOU are human and we are all here on this earth to experience ALL elements of this earth, love, joy, pain, excitement, family, whatever--each of us have our own map to follow.
For you NOT to be depressed, you have to erase the word from your vocabulary...use another like..i am feeling so challenged today.
 Don't allow negative words or people in your life...even if it means being alone until you find new friends, mates or family substitutes!! Life is hard but don't take it personal--we all go through something at sometime!!! The universe does not pick on one person, it has lessons, great, ugly and bad for ALL of us!! How you work through them or learn from them is the divine part, this will tell you how much charector you have! You must always believe that feeling down is only temporary--even slaves and those in the holocaust found  a second to laugh or smile at something...don't dwell on what you cannot change and if you can change it--get to work!!! You are needed: someone would not be here without you! Someone would die, cry or kill without you in their lives, you do matter most-don't forget it and spread love to someone today, call a friend that comforts you. When all else fails and you have no one look to the sky and tell the universe "thanks for my life, no matter where i am at" because i have life, i can always get more, do more and be more...xo Tanya

I thank the universe for you, because you are reading my blog which means I am doing something right...smile, we all love you and know you are important to the universe!!

why me?

hi blog family!!

you see in the headlines today a man at the Discovery channel in MD took hostages--because he felt the programming was bogus...selling products rather than telling us how to be "green"...
what about the mother that threw her toddler in the water....so she could get even with her husband for leaving her??
well I feel sorry for these people and I can tell you how NOT to end up like them.............don't think why me?
Start with why not me and by realizing WE all go through something in life and we have to VALUE life and VALUE others lives along with the universe!!!
If you really understand how to value - then you can see why I feel it is your most important tool for fighting pity parties,  depression, homicidal/suicidal thought and the many other feelings from "things" that happen to us in life.
Often we want to have pity parties or blame others but look inside and value, respect YOU and what was naturally put on this earth..
once you see that vision you can always get through anything.

This lady and man felt hopless and had no regard for others nor themselves. How do you throw a toddler over a bridge>??? SELFISHNESS! how do you take someone hostage who has NOTHING to do with your cause..SELFISHNESS!! Your life is valuable in everyway--to you and to others!!!
 no matter what we go through in this life remember there will be other lives and this is only temperary, you don't need to kill yourself or others, believe me you will go-  on your own when the universe feels you did what you needed to do or that you are not going to act on what you were given to you!!
WOrk on how to destress.. walk, talk, sports, writing, reading, singing, meditating---
.times are hard and people are scared....
 everyone is watching our economy (but the evil 8% who have all the wealth or those who planned well and that's ok --you have to stay focused on staying postive and when you hear stories like this remember while none of us are far removed, this is not the kind of action you take to get attention--the action you take is working on you, finding your gifts and talents that can bring you extra money...and just learn to enjoy you and yours, without all the frills...I think you deserve the best but if you cannot right now or times seem hard, focus on what you DO have and how grateful we are to be amongst the living.... we all are worth something to the universe and each other, respect ALL life and all creatures, especially yourself enough to know times always can get better and you can pull through anyting, if you hold on long enough..... smile, someone is watching...Tanya