When the pressures of life are weighing you down......

Hi blog family!

I know there are days when even I feel no help is coming, but I say to you, hold on, remain steadfast, and know that "this" too shall pass!
This is one of the reasons I and others work so hard to make sure all kids in foster care or leaving will have the right mental attitude.
 On days when it seems as though nothing is working out or everyone just does not get it, you can take a break, focus, get back on track knowing that nothing stays the same therefore, the bad people and events will go away, if you stay persistent and focused!
There will be times when you want to give up - don't - work harder,
the law of the universe is: you get what you give,
so if you are giving, how can you not see results at some point??
Stay focused and don't let negative events keep your spirit down. Keep on moving..soul2soul
xo Tanya

vote? tv show for aged out kids??

Hi blog family Ex-model former foster kid here!

I have been busy trying to change the face of foster care!
Please go to Oprah.com  and vote for my video "Transitional House"- a show idea i had for a while.

I am hoping to be picked because while I always wanted to be a tv host (late night)--my calling is helping people see the big picture. 

I don't want
another foster kid to kill themselves, like my friend did at 18, because they had no love or was abused,
 I don't want no foster kid or former foster kid to be "depressed, homicidal or suicidal-
 I want no one to feel the pain I felt when my mother never came back,
when my foster brothers abused me
and when my brother died and I felt like I had no one left but my kids, (which is alot)....

I want Everyone who leaves foster care to leave feeling empowered,
 grateful to be alive and share their wisdom, as to save or change a life, knowing that we are blessed because we could have been Lisa Steinberg or the baby aborted or thrown in the trash....
 I want Everyone to ENJOY THIS LIFE, now, knowing that you are special, loved and if you ENJOY you and THIS life....and help a few others on the way....it was all worth it!

Please vote for me, I don't care about the fame, recognition on a personal note, I only want to change the face of foster care, so that every child in care or leaving knows, they can do it too!!

I love all of you who have come to this site, you are special, loved and remember to smile, you may save, change or help a life today!! 
Tanya

too late?

hi!
just  finished sending video for Oprah's new TV station! my message for the day is:

It is never too late and there is no such word as can't--unless you don't want too!!
peace and love- Tanya

Enery is flowing, where your attention is going..

Hi blog family!

I have been watching the DVD the secret, again!!!

"Energy flows, where attention goes."- by one of the speakers in the DVD.
They also said "Mother Teresa said: "Don't invite me to a anti-war rally, I will attend a Peace rally."

Both of these quotes are SO vital to you changing your way of thinking!
If you grew up in foster care, you spent alot of time worrying....now you need to refocus on all the things in life you WANT to happen!

Write down all the things you want in your life: love, happiness, good health, car, job, $, whatever, DONOT write down anything that you don't want, only what you want and only the good things:

Say them in present tense and be specific: I can't wait to pick up my Mercedes or I want $20, 000 extra income before the year ends..(they say make it realistic to your talent, life, situation...)

LISTEN when it's time to take ACTION!! this is the number one reason for failure on your plan, you don't listen to your instinct..(also could  known as the universe or your spirit guide). The "thing" that tells you an idea, (write a book, make a piece of jewelry like no one else, sing like no one else, clean like no one else, organize..etc), this thing inspires you to do whatever your gift is better than anyone else and you end up creating something amazing....only to ignore it... for example: everyone says you have the best voice..and you wrote songs that everyone likes....problem: your friend wants you to be in his band...but you make excuses and never join....they become big and genereate money from it.....now you lost out because you did not listen to you, (this is only one example). Point: you must take action when your instinct is telling you to do something creative- sing, write, dance, organize, invent, create, travel, --even if your life is not going where you want it to go--CHANGE IT!!

We are all in charge of our own life--If you hate your job, look for another or create a job for yourself that brings in money.....you spend 40 hours a week helping your company be #1 why not invest in your own?

If you want a new mate....drop the old one, take a chance on being alone, you cannot attract a new mate until you rid yourself of old first!
If you want your kids to be "better", show them how, take them to the museum, show them the world, not your local area, talk to them kinder, you are the parent, teach them well and they will come back to that teaching...
The point is put your energy on all the things you want in your life NOT what you don't want, like the secret says: you are just attracting more of what you don't want when you think, speak or act on those things...xo Tanya

Father's Day

Hi Blog family..
was on bed rest--but i am back!!
Father's day?
 Do we really know what that is? Often we are in care because our fathers did NOT step up! It's ok because I found plenty of male role models...
 I was lucky to have a good foster father for a little while but i guess I will pen a poem of why a father should be celebrated...

Father

More than letters that make up a word,
that means a man who secured an egg,
and helped mom make a baby....
Father,
you should be a man who dotes on his child
even pulling them back in when they are running wild..
Father,
should be playing sports in the grass, swimming in the lake, camping, hiking, biking, any activity that is father and child inviting...
father should,
tell me it is ok when my day has gone wrong,
when my friends are no more and my mate has gone on to another.
Father should be there when mom is not.
Father,
 should not have let us go to a group home,
father should not have listened to mother and let us be raised at the hand of another,
Father? Father! Father. That is a tilte you must work for
and for those who did, happy fathers day, teach some young boy how to be a man and the next generation will only get better!

Speak up for yourself!

Hi blog family!

As a foster child I am sure you were not allowed to have to much of an opinion. I often had to listen to adults make decisions for me, adults who did not know me at all!
Now that I am older I have learned- You are your best advocate!
When something is bothering you. When someone is bothering you. When a situation is making you think way too much---SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF!!!

Often, people will take advantage of quiet soft spoken people because----they know they can!
 If you are known as a person that will not sit and "take it"...you  are more likely to have less people using, manipulating, or walking over you.
This could apply to a situation: example: your inlaws always want you to cook for the holidays---and you hate it or did it because you knew you were the better cook and you wanted to please your inlaws..
Example solution: tell your inlaws you are NOT cooking this year but you will bring one dish, (or you would like to rest this year). when you say it, say it firm and factly---not like you are not sure.. speak with a voice of sureness not in a tone that will make them charm you into doing it after all.

example: Your friends want you to pay for dinner or drinks---and you do most of the time...
example solution: call them BEFORE you go out: let them know you are only bringing $ for yourself and you will not be paying anyone's way! Stick to your guns, don't feel SORRY for your broke friend, that is her issue, not yours, going out is a leisure event not something to survive, let them buy their own drinks or food, you are not their caretaker!!
last example: your doctor tells you to take a new medicine that has side effects
Solution: Just because someone has a MD or PHD does not mean they are correct! They are making an "educated" guess! You know yourself (or should) better than your doctor, find out the name of the medicine and illness, go on google and research findings on the illness and medicines for it, then decide, unless you are in a life threatning situation. Most of the doctors that are in "medical" group situations appear to have deals with the pharmacutical companies, that does not mean it is best..research or you could end up dead--but better yet, let your doctor know what your concerns are and why-you can only do that with research. If your doctor has no clue of what you are talking about: for instance: my allergist wanted me to take an asthma medicine that has "a black box" warning which overall means IT COULD KILL BLACK PATIENTS instantly!!! They do not tell you this so I researched, including medical journals, and found that I was right there has been "sudden death" when several people used this pump...there was an "explanation" (having to do with the steroids in or not in drug) BUT my doctor never told me, even after I told him i don't like pumps...after I expressed my concerns and showed him the data I had on that pump...he admitted i was right--but the "chances are small"---YA THINK!!! small to whom---me=my life! I told him I would not take any "chance" on dropping dead.
If I had not spoke up....who knows..but i had to say something.

It may feel strange speaking up for yourself after years of letting your agency or even a controlling family make decisions for you but you have to learn--yes you can learn to take charge and make your own choices:
1. When you are faced with making a decision--think it through, take a walk or sleep on it, (if you have time). What is good if I do or don't do? how will it effect me: good/bad? can I live with this choice?

2. Practice!
Every chance you get--make a decision or voice your opinions or concerns--you can do it without yelling, being mean or bossy. In fact if I am telling someone "NO" or why I cannot do something, I try to say it in a calm, low, solid voice. If they respond yelling, I walk away or let them know i am not the one to talk to in that tone....you can make your own choices--without anyone's help, top executives do it all the time! Even if the choice was not the greatest--live with it and learn from it--the world did not end because you made a error?? next....
3. Listen to your 6th sence or inner voice!
when you hear a voice or your heart tells you what to do--do it!
Don't 2nd guess and don't ask for anyone's advice if you want to learn to make YOUR own decisions!
Your 6th sense is your "gut" feeling. Often we don't listen to it as kids or adults and that is probably why we never listen to it later, often causing us hardship later: ( bad divorce..when you first met your ex--someting told you not to date him--you did anyway! and now..divorce.. when you got in trouble...something told you not to go to that place or be with that friend...but you did and got in trouble or was injured because you went.... LISTEN to your gut, instinct, 6th sense, whatever you call it, it usually will not lead you wrong!
4. Confidence! Have confidence in you and know that only you know what is good for you! If you are mentally challenged, this may be tough and you may need help but barring that fact, You are in charge of You!...
ahoy captain!!!xo Tanya

Larry King Interviews Oprah on The Secret

you are what you think! watch the DVD the secret...over and over

slavery, holocaust, immigrants?? Racism?

Hey blog family!! this was my message for the kids but you will get the point..it was on my heart today..i don't watch tv so i yahoo news ever few days to keep up ...i found this story...politician wants to build tents for illegal aliens!!! how dare he?? I am sad but hopeful my friends won't let this happen!!

no I did not forget about you, in fact, I am always thinking of what kid is checking my blog, (or adult)...lol

I have many things to say to you, always food for thought and always with love for ANYONE who enters!

I want you to google what is happening in Arizona today...the powers that be want to put up a fence for illegal immigrants AND put them in tents!!!! *(#@**)^% Ok forgive me but do you know what that means?

Do any of you know about Anne Frank or slavery? if you don't PLEASE go on google tonight or youtube what happend during the holocaust! This is a must if you are going to be a seeker of knowledge in life!

ANYWHO, what happend only happend because ALL people (power and no power), sat by and did nothing!!

You are a person of change, you are our future leaders! Don't ever let any of your friends tell you why ANOTHER culture is worse than theirs! 

I know they may say aweful things like: "they are taking our jobs, or " this place is not the same" or "I can't get any help because they are getting it all"....these are just some of the racist excuses I have heard from ex associates---I  stay away, throw away people who talk like that---you think!!! 

You cannot associate with people who think bad and say horrible things about someone just because of their culture or language. Usually people with small minds think like this and it's because they have never traveled or been around other cultures so they are scared someone brighter--or more resourceful than them may take something of theirs---that is a lie!!

 No one can take what God has for you! Ever! If he wants YOU to get that job...you will...if he wants you to learn patience..he will teach you...whatever God has for you, NO man or woman can take away...including life! 

That's why some people who were in the holocaust years ago, are still alive...Hitler tried to kill all jews But thank God, that was not the plan GOD had! They wanted slaves  dead or to be servents forever....now we have a "black" president"....that was said to be impossible...and I am NOT cosigning on any politics...BUT i am trying to show you a point...what God has for you, no man can take--repeat it, learn it!!! It was said, (google who said it),

"one who does'nt learn from history, is bound to repeat it"

God made us ALL for a reason, no one is "better" than anyone else and remember: ALL americans, came here speaking another language, (even if they were kidnapped from Africa or were "orginially" here like the Indians, (sioux, cherkee etc...)

 So no one is all American anyway, that is a lie....if you search your roots back to your great grand parents, parents, (unless u are really young), you will find American is a Nationality NOT a culture!!! 

google what i am saying...and understand i am giving you an early lesson so that you won't be "that kid" that said something or did something racist...like agree with the politician in Arizona that wants to put up tents for illegal immigrants!! 

How would you like it if we had slavery again or potatoe famine or the great depression...where everyone was broke and hungry??? don't think because you are not an illegal alien, (which  i hate that term, they are not from space, they are human...so why call anyone an alien unless they are from another planet? "America is the "melting pot".....

Mexico is so close, that is why people come in such high numbers, people may come to make a better life for themselves, can you blame them or ANY person that comes to this country to have a better life? 

If you had a family to feed and you only got .10 cents an hour and worked 13 hours a day...would you stay if you knew there was a place you could make more money AND have better living conditions?

 I would leave in a heartbeat!!! Don't judge someone--anyone by the color of their skin but as Dr. King said, by the content of their charector"--Immigrants are the hardest working, most loving people...just like any other good citizen, the only difference is the government refuse to give them a legal ID # so they can pay taxes.....who's fault is that???

 Blame the powers that be not the immigrants, they don't make the laws, they are just trying to feed their family...every man/woman has the right to live a healthy, safe, life!

Do me a favor, don't ever talk bad about another culture, keep it to yourself if you were raised to be predjudice, look around, the world is full of color and good people, "illegal aliens" are no exception!

I love you all who read--any kid/teen, i am trying to change your thinking so that you can change the world!

LOVE THY NEIGHBOR AS I LOVE MYSELF

PLS SMILE AND DO YOUR HOMEWORK..GOOGLE WHAT I TOLD YOU...YOUR LIFE WILL BE CHANGED- XO TANYA

Words of encouragement...

hi blog family!

words of the day:

"the power of success, lies in your hands

The power of you lies in success

success is any accomplishment because failure is not in our vocabulary....

What can you do to save, change or influence a life today??

Can you save the world...with a little help from your friends???

No man can rise alone....alone....nahhhhaaa, it takes a few....

What tools will you need, go get them, make them if you have to!

You are the knight and shinning armor/cinderella's...you will save the day: my day, your day, his or her day....you are a saver of life...let me count the ways this could be your day to save a life....

Think big, dream big, Do big THINGS

that will change you and the world, for the better!

If You are happy, i am happy, if i am happy, we all are happy...spred the disease of love, sharing & caring

 - Tanya