praying for japan

hi blog family!

pray for Japan and all the other Countries/places that had catastrophic events. You must always meditate harder for others than yourself- it takes your mind off of your problems when you help others!!! Remember when it comes to catastrophy's, drugs and life--their is no discrimination so we must ALL come togeather for the sake of this earth.
Hold Japan in the light (pray) (meditate)- whatever your preference but think of those in need today, and worry about you another time.
Please pray for any kids left in the orphanages there, pray that those who make it are resilant, and hold on until rescue comes.

Man thinks he is smarter than God or the Universe- it can never be and we will see many more things happen that NO ONE has control over! The lesson will be for ALL of us to come togeather, or destroy one another!
Remember the earth will always be here, we are the ones that will vanish or change form if man does not stop thinking he is creator...We all have divine purpose, what is yours, what legacy do you want to leave if you died today?? think, meditate and take action-today!

if you have food, shelter & health - you should be praising the universe/God for letting you rise one more day without incident.
You can show you are grateful by helping others- that can be with a smile, deed, check or prayer! xo
Tanya

getting it togeather

Hi blog family!

After years in care and running around guessing how life is sopose to go- how do you get it togeather?
You know you should: lose weight to be healthy
get a new job--because this one is not your calling
find a new mate- because this one is not the person to help you go to  the next level in your life, in fact, they are keeping you "comfortable".
take that class to get that diploma/degree
move-because the area you live in is a danger to your children...
whatever the issue, it is hard to stay focused after foster care. You spend so many years running around and just getting by-its hard to transition to "being the best and only allowing the best in our lives!

a few ideas to foster change in your life--and know this is STILL a challenge for myself as well...
1. meditate- put a visual on what you want and how to get it...the first what with deep meditation-will bring clarity.
2. don't allow negative people or responses to be in your life or vocabulary!
3. write it down-- if you can see it you can believe it!! the fancy car, new home, new mate, new life--write it down...
4. work on your gift or talent (you know what it is..people tell you you sing out of this world or you always good at helping them with your problems (counseling)--you should have an idea by 25...some know earlier but no one helped them develop or see the gift..
5. follow you instinct and don't 2nd guess yourself--go with what your inner self said-usually you won't be steered wrong.
6. act!! like Nike says: DO IT!!!

we only have one life-it is short, enjoy it and do what you were born to do-so that you will help, save or change someone elses life!!!
xo Tanya

voting??

hi blog family-yes, it's me! busy with getting the book out trying before xmas!
Just wanted to remind you to vote today..you have until 9pm! If you don't vote, you should because:
1. our ancestors died so that we could have the right to vote
2. Rosa Parks lead a sit in so that we could sit anywhere on a bus
3. our ancestors need to know we honor them by voting and making our voices heard when we can-for ALL people!
4. if you don't-don't complain that your town, city or area has bad schools or not enough books, you did not vote, so we got "whoever" in office...
make a difference and let your voice be heard. If you want to make voting fun find a group of friends who like the same person for office-and all of you have coffee before work and then vote at the same time!! we must use our voice and teach every kid you know how to like politics by using his or her voice!!
you are loved blessed and special, Tanya

to foster parents..thank you

Hi blog family!
 thanks Griffith family for all your hard work. I will be addressing foster parents this blog but I also have something more later.

What foster kids need:

1. loving willing capable, functional parent/s that have a BIG heart unconditionally
2. read as much as they can about various abuse: neglect, etc... (then you will understand how to help the child with compassion..
3. if you have kids that are not related...keep an eye on any that was sexually abused...they may act out on it..(I talk about this in my book: "Surviving Foster care & Making it work for you"..
4. know that whatever your kids went through MUST be talked about, processed and worked through, with therapy, mommy love/therapy and community help ...it takes a village to raise a child....
5. set up a trust fund and put their money that comes monthly from the state for clothes/allowance put some of that money away, especially if they are young, it is priceless to have SOME funds when you age out--I had none and I was never given my money--although I always had the best clothes and food BUT a bank account would have been nicer and more helpful.... put something away and teach them the art of saving for a rainy day...
6. teach them they are the hero of this world, the universe is waiting for them to develop so they can help others...and share whatever gifts and talents they have...
7. make sure when they leave the door is always open for a holiday--I never had anywhere to go because i was sexually abused in my foster home--I loved the family--did not want to see my abusers...it's nice to have a place to go when you have no family...
8. be CAREFRONTATIONL-- Dr. Harris Straytner coined this phrase--approach with care and concern, not anger and acsusations..love heals all--even when your parents give you away or you went through abuse--with work, a loving family, therapy,,,,anyone can heal!! (I talk more to victums in my book) I will let you know where to get it soon,
This is it for today, I hope I helped and will do more for foster parents, smile, someone is watching and check out my other blog for teens fosterkidsonly.blogspot.com/
Tanya