people, places and things

Hi blog family!
pls forgive error, I LOVE adoptuskids.org they are an outstanding organization that does great work to help foster kids get adopted!!! 

I will be short today.
 Have you experience people that ALWAYS have something negative to say? Are you a  person that ALWAYS complains....(think real hard)...
Perhaps you grew up in a place with a negative environment (people always thinking you never did "good" enough, perhaps they always downed you and told you negative things OR never told you anything YOU did good, right or better than usual...
Maybe you were around an abusive partner..(I know many who ran away from group homes, only to fall into "victim" mode by linking up with an abusive partner)..
If any of this applies to you, no worries... this is the good thing about waking up EVERY day- you can change your reality!! I can't imagine growing up in a negative place! How can we expect someone to be "positive" if this is not how they grew up? change your reality!

As of today; stop being around naysayers...people who always have bad things to say ALL the time!! People who only see the bad in a situation....never the good! People who always want you to  "hang out" in bad places! If you want your life to be productive, fruitful and filled with joy and love....first start with getting rid of negative people who say and or want you to do bad things and be in places that will cost you your freedom or put bad thoughts in your head... Life is short, why waste it on bad things OR anything that does NOT help you grow as a person?
Find people who may not give compliments all day BUT do point out your good traits or actions!
Find places to go that make your mind strong and your soul happy...(looking at art, a concert, a walk in nature, the ocean, good book, there are many good things to do in this life and many good people, find them!
If you come from an abusive relationships or past, you have to work harder because your mind was trained to think and do negative by your abuser or in that abusive environment.
 Even if you watched abuse, it plays a part in your life; some will NOT be like there abusers, others will gravitate toward partners/friends...just like their past...You can change that by practicing and committing to surrounding yourself with love and peaceful people...fall back on the yellers, liars, manipulators, stalkers, deceivers, abusers....

I always say: show me your "friends" and I will see you!"
 I have hung around all types of people, I never judge by your situation but by how you treat others...poor, rich, homeless, even if your doing a job I don't agree with- you must have a good trait somewhere for me to have you as my friend!
I learned when i was homeless, never judge a book by its cover but how it reads..... lol..
find good people who are positive and
 try not to surround yourself with anyone who talks negative all the time, it rubs off!

You are a gift to this world, you are loved and its your turn to enjoy life!! :)



smile, someone is watching you! lol..xo
Tanya
below is some of this text in french...there are orphanages in all countries (they are still called that many places, not group homes... sometimes if i see I have  readers who are from other countries, i will post in those languages...)
En French..................................................................................
Negative gens, les lieux et les choses Salut blog familial! 
Je serai bref aujourd'hui. Avez-vous l'expérience des gens qui ont toujours quelque chose de négatif à dire? Etes-vous une personne qui se plaint toujours ....( pense réel dur) ... Peut-être que vous avez grandi dans un endroit avec un environnement négatif (les gens pense toujours que vous n'avez jamais fait "bon" assez, peut-être ils toujours vous dit que vous abattus et les choses négatives ou jamais dit tout ce que vous avez de bonnes, à droite ou mieux que d'habitude ... Peut-être que vous étiez autour d'un partenaire violent .. (je connais beaucoup qui ont fui les foyers de groupe, que pour tomber dans la «victime» le mode en s'associant avec un partenaire violent) .. Si rien de tout cela s'applique à vous, pas de soucis .. . c'est la bonne chose à propos réveiller chaque jour, vous pouvez changer votre réalité! Je ne peux imaginer de grandir dans un endroit négatif! Comment pouvons-nous attendre que quelqu'un soit "positive" si ce n'est pas comment ils ont grandi? changer votre réalité En date d'aujourd'hui;!! cesser d'être autour d'opposants ... les gens qui ont toujours de mauvaises choses à dire tout le temps des gens qui ne voient que le mauvais dans une situation .... jamais le bon peuple qui en veulent toujours vous à «traîner» dans des endroits mal! Si vous voulez que votre vie soit productive, fructueux et remplis de joie et d'amour .... commencer d'abord par

I wish i could syndrome

hi blog family!!

its a new day!! what are you up to??
are you:
sitting around waiting for your dreams to happen? This can only happen if you know what it is and how to plan for it...then how to execute!

sitting around wishing you could look 50 lbs lighter...but not excersizing or changing your eating habits?

wishing you had a mate..but sitting on the couch, never going anywhere to be seen or meet new people?
wishing you were successful...but not doing anything that will manifest this success?

thinking of leaving that abusive partner, but never leave, even with support..because you don't think your worth it or no one will want you? this is a hard one because you do what you have to do to survive when you are in an abusive relationship-especially when there are kids BUT i say to you..if you can get to "my sisters place or any domestic violence shelter- go and start over..your life and your kids are worth it!! You may be able to turn this experience around by writing a journal/book and helping other woman..keep faith, and take action as soon as your spirit tells u to leave!

I had the "I wish I could" syndrome for years. It is going to keep you in the same place! You must realize your greatness and get up, get out and do something, as Macy gray use to sing! Nothing in this life is coming easy...even illnesses take some work like eating bad food, not seeing a doctor...etc... Nothing in this life good or bad, comes to you, you must go get the good you want in life!!!
If you want to change your negative kids thinking--think positive-live positive- talk positive--they will follow the leader- YOU!!
If you want a mate. get out to the museums, borders, gallery's... he/she cannot find you if you home!

if you want success. start planning what does that mean, what does it take for your goal, what do you need, who do you need for a mentor? how long..does not matter if you do not give up...

Stay focused and try new things this year, the universe is waiting for your success!! There is plenty for all of us, find out what gifts you have that will make you stand out...xo Tanya

The search is on for foster families

Really, a search?
 Why do we try to save money and end up spending more later?
There use to be a time when it was more lucrative for foster kids to be in group homes (remember when all the dark skin kids stayed because no one would pick us--we thought it was our age...and now we know it was our color.and money to keep us longer..(not many will admit this read "WILDER"case.  but it was the agency's then only placed you according to religion..if you were catholic, prodestent or jewish-you was placed with better agency's....(or so we thought until you read some foster care books written by all races...so much for the "take care of your own theory...
It is a differenct system now but it is still running on old beliefs and values" let's get the kids out of their "unsafe" enviornement and put them in a camp like enviornment, (hello..what "camp" has ever worked for healing souls...only summer camp and that was refuge from all your brothers and sisters....) meeting all of their needs... if the city paid more and did better screenings, ( I hear alot of people who have foster kids--that are criminals and abusive .
they would find alot of homes BUT just because you take a kid does not mean your a good parent...even if you have one....what will be the determining factor is how much resources will you put into this child having a future so bright, they cannot find room for the  word failure in their vocabualry? No one is thinking...I have many solutions...but they are busy asking people who were never in foster care, did not know they was in foster care--until after the fact, or people that never heard of foster care and want to "do a good deed"! WRONG! when you want real solutions on how to fix foster care they should come to us--we lived it, especially those who grew up in care 5-21 and different enviornments, foster and group homes... 
I am not babbling, I am saying if we want our kids to age out successfully we must invest in them mentally, and physically and financiallly..by making sure WHEREVER they are placed, there is love, caring people, contacts, therapy with a modern approach, and understanding that it takes work to heal from abandonment. not money... or just any foster family....
You are blessed and a blessing Tanya