Happy holidays! I am working on being the queen of late night TV one day!! If you have a dream, never give up. The $ may not be there just yet, you may not have help but if you keep pressing, God will send you angels who will help you achieve! No Dream is too big!! Write down your goals and share so that you keep on track!! Have a happy holiday and remember you are NEVER alone, God walks with you, he is the footprints in the sand, he is the one who has the final say! If you have talent, use it, perfect it, and learn to get out there and do something that will help you achieve your goal of success for the new year!! xo
Tanya
This is a place where you can come for advice or a kind word. If you are in a group home, Foster care or had no family due to any circumstance, There are many things you may not have learned. I hope to motivate change in your life! If you have no family to inspire you on bad days, you may find something here to show you how to get out of your bubble and "take back your life! * These words are my opinions only and based on my 16 years in foster care! FosterKidsUniteInc@gmail.com
Tuesday, December 24, 2013
Tuesday, December 17, 2013
E.L.L.I.S. BOYZ TALKS ABOUT NEW SINGLE / R&B GROUP ALLURE TALKS ABOUT ALBUM
As you all know, I am a jack of all trades! lol but I did go to NYU to do only this one day....and have my own late night talk show!! A girl can dream!! BIG!!
Don't let others make you feel bad if you have more than one talent!! Do them all!!! Like Beyoncé says and does...don't ever be comfortable and content, always strive for more, bigger, better! Not for materialist gain, (this is the Tanya part talking),lol... but because God has given you SO much brain power that you barely use 60%!!! Imagine if you: wrote that play, sung that song you wrote, performed in the play, invented a new product, raised your kids, went back to school....ALL at one time!! You do know that you have that capability? God did not make any dummies, only people who listen to negative thoughts and refuse to act on the positive ones, thereby only living basic and barley getting by! It is ok if you are the one for that life, but I know in THIS life, I want to BE ALL that I CAN BE TODAY!! That means hard work, ethics, positive friends, accepting that at times I may be lonely because everyone will think I am crazy when I don't want to go out for a party or follow the in crowd.... Whatever YOU do....be true to YOUR vision and what God has blessed YOU with. Stay blessed and enjoy this interview I did with these lovely artist...they are true to what God blessed them all with vocals!! xo T
Don't let others make you feel bad if you have more than one talent!! Do them all!!! Like Beyoncé says and does...don't ever be comfortable and content, always strive for more, bigger, better! Not for materialist gain, (this is the Tanya part talking),lol... but because God has given you SO much brain power that you barely use 60%!!! Imagine if you: wrote that play, sung that song you wrote, performed in the play, invented a new product, raised your kids, went back to school....ALL at one time!! You do know that you have that capability? God did not make any dummies, only people who listen to negative thoughts and refuse to act on the positive ones, thereby only living basic and barley getting by! It is ok if you are the one for that life, but I know in THIS life, I want to BE ALL that I CAN BE TODAY!! That means hard work, ethics, positive friends, accepting that at times I may be lonely because everyone will think I am crazy when I don't want to go out for a party or follow the in crowd.... Whatever YOU do....be true to YOUR vision and what God has blessed YOU with. Stay blessed and enjoy this interview I did with these lovely artist...they are true to what God blessed them all with vocals!! xo T
Sunday, December 8, 2013
No Time For Holiday Blues
No time for Holiday Blues
Hi blog family!
it has been a minute - but life is good! I am on the grind, trying to bring my gifts forward that God gave me!!
I finally got the guts to get back on stage after memory issues!
I auditioned for America's Got Talent!! You all know I love telling jokes!! Have to wait till February to find out!!!:( - who does that!!
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Holidays are approaching!
This is a high time for suicide rates and depression. But not for us. Life is our only option!! Remember our ancestors came through oppression, which can be worse than death!
If they made it over on boats in horrible, crowded conditions, survived whippings, abuse of all kinds, YOU owe it to our ancestors to find a way out of your darkness and into the light we ALL have, if we turn it on!
For my group home kids who have no family to go home to and for anyone who has no family for whatever reason, Holidays can be very lonely for some and sad BUT....not for you! Here are some tips on how to break away from the holiday blues!
1. surround yourself around good friends, (if you don't have any...get to looking!!) lol
There are many ways to meet new quality friends;
engage in conversation
join a group
take a class in something that interest you
God did not intend for you to do this journey alone. We all need at least one friend!
I am praying that none of those without family will feel lonely this holiday!
Know that God is always sending you angels right here on earth - you have to find them and know when they are present!!
If you have no one for this holiday
2. go to a church or pantry that is having dinner, meet new people!
Try to gravitate towards the ones who want to get out of their current situation
who wants to grow
You can spot haters, naysayer and non believers from a mile away! (just look for the signs; saying negative things, being negative-violent-mean or nasty!
*Look for the people at the table who are grateful that someone took the time to think about them so they could share a meal!
look for someone who gives a complement or kind word!
Angels are all around us in many forms!!
Remember you are NOT alone if you have God in your heart and will power - you are never alone.
3.Think good thoughts this holiday. Stop associating with bad times, even if you do not get one present, the fact that you have life and speech and can move is present enough - nothing like the gift of life!
The fact that you are here is the present, (the gift), - anything could happen at any moment!
It means you could go out and make a million dollar idea NOW!!
It means you could walk into the love of your life - at any moment
it means that you could talk a friend out of hurting themselves or others because God gave you the brain power to negotiate!!!
You are divine! Use what you were born with!
There is no time for holiday blues, only holiday presence, (as in showing up) for yourself and others!
For the holidays surround yourself around love, people and food- even if its at someone else's table!!
presents don't mean anything over presence!!
Be there in the moment of the holiday, enjoy it as a time to feel love from others - presents are only material and won't last long but if you make a good impression with love and laughter, your presence will mean everything for the holiday - no matter what table your at!!! Go spread joy and love and know that you are loved and favored!! xo Happy holidays to all my readers and thank you for the support!!
Tanya
Sunday, November 24, 2013
Reflections of where i was, who helped save me and those that help link
hi blog family!
I was reminiscing over an old elementary school pic, (I started school very late), due to neglect and moving around. I was so malnourished in this photo but I am thanking God for a birth mother who knew - she was an addict, and loved us enough to give us away..(strange to say but I was starving and living in horrible conditions)..
Thankful to my sister, who knew we would starve if we did not get help
and my 2nd foster mother Rev D, who got me around 7, (the courts did not know how old I was so the judge gave me an age two years older!! lol, he asked me how old do I want to be and my dumb self said 9!!! lol), (my birth Grandma & family confirmed I am younger. .to late to change the records!!!) lol
I am so thankful to God for my life looking at this picture my abuse by my two brothers had not started yet so life was good and I finally had FOOD!! I remember when they came for us we had no clean clothes or food, I talk about it in my book; Surviving Foster Care And Making It Work For You! www.amazon.com I wish the worker would have bought food!!
I wanted to share the work others are doing to help foster kids! Have a great Turkey day and if you have no family - go to your local church or pantry - somebody is serving food!! Do
not stay home by yourself wishing, hoping and praying when you can GO OUT and find good people who love and care about you! You are a star and a winner!! Happy Holidays!!
xo T
here is the link! Always support those who help kids in foster care - talk is cheap action is everything! I know because I would still be malnourished had someone not stepped up and I would have had to drop out of NYU had someone, (a kind Quaker..R.I.P Mrs. Bauer), not bought my books!!! Any action is better than a dumb reaction!! (like when people hear our story's and say dumb things like "poor kids " or "its a shame" - Yea it is!! and that is why YOU should do SOMETHING!! Help SAVE or change a life!! xo
www.tureksplumbing.com/give-back-campaign/2013-tureks-plumbing-helps-improve-local-foster-childrens-lives.html
I was reminiscing over an old elementary school pic, (I started school very late), due to neglect and moving around. I was so malnourished in this photo but I am thanking God for a birth mother who knew - she was an addict, and loved us enough to give us away..(strange to say but I was starving and living in horrible conditions)..
Thankful to my sister, who knew we would starve if we did not get help
and my 2nd foster mother Rev D, who got me around 7, (the courts did not know how old I was so the judge gave me an age two years older!! lol, he asked me how old do I want to be and my dumb self said 9!!! lol), (my birth Grandma & family confirmed I am younger. .to late to change the records!!!) lol
I am so thankful to God for my life looking at this picture my abuse by my two brothers had not started yet so life was good and I finally had FOOD!! I remember when they came for us we had no clean clothes or food, I talk about it in my book; Surviving Foster Care And Making It Work For You! www.amazon.com I wish the worker would have bought food!!
I wanted to share the work others are doing to help foster kids! Have a great Turkey day and if you have no family - go to your local church or pantry - somebody is serving food!! Do
xo T
here is the link! Always support those who help kids in foster care - talk is cheap action is everything! I know because I would still be malnourished had someone not stepped up and I would have had to drop out of NYU had someone, (a kind Quaker..R.I.P Mrs. Bauer), not bought my books!!! Any action is better than a dumb reaction!! (like when people hear our story's and say dumb things like "poor kids " or "its a shame" - Yea it is!! and that is why YOU should do SOMETHING!! Help SAVE or change a life!! xo
www.tureksplumbing.com/give-back-campaign/2013-tureks-plumbing-helps-improve-local-foster-childrens-lives.html
Friday, November 22, 2013
No time for Holiday Blues
Hi blog family!
it has been a minute - but life is good! I am on the grind, trying to bring my gifts forward that God gave me!!
I finally got the guts to get back on stage after memory issues!
I auditioned for America's Got Talent!! You all know I love telling jokes!! Have to wait till February to find out!!!:( - who does that!!
**********************************************************************************
Holidays are approaching!
This is a high time for suicide rates and depression. But not for us. Life is our only option!! Remember our ancestors came through oppression, which can be worse than death!
If they made it over on boats in horrible, crowded conditions, survived whippings, abuse of all kinds, YOU owe it to our ancestors to find a way out of your darkness and into the light we ALL have, if we turn it on!
For my group home kids who have no family to go home to and for anyone who has no family for whatever reason, Holidays can be very lonely for some and sad BUT....not for you! Here are some tips on how to break away from the holiday blues!
1. surround yourself around good friends, (if you don't have any...get to looking!!) lol
There are many ways to meet new quality friends;
engage in conversation
join a group
take a class in something that interest you
God did not intend for you to do this journey alone. We all need at least one friend!
I am praying that none of those without family will feel lonely this holiday!
Know that God is always sending you angels right here on earth - you have to find them and know when they are present!!
If you have no one for this holiday
2. go to a church or pantry that is having dinner, meet new people!
Try to gravitate towards the ones who want to get out of their current situation
who wants to grow
You can spot haters, naysayer and non believers from a mile away! (just look for the signs; saying negative things, being negative-violent-mean or nasty!
*Look for the people at the table who are grateful that someone took the time to think about them so they could share a meal!
look for someone who gives a complement or kind word!
Angels are all around us in many forms!!
Remember you are NOT alone if you have God in your heart and will power - you are never alone.
3.Think good thoughts this holiday. Stop associating with bad times, even if you do not get one present, the fact that you have life and speech and can move is present enough - nothing like the gift of life!
The fact that you are here is the present, (the gift), - anything could happen at any moment!
It means you could go out and make a million dollar idea NOW!!
It means you could walk into the love of your life - at any moment
it means that you could talk a friend out of hurting themselves or others because God gave you the brain power to negotiate!!!
You are divine! Use what you were born with!
There is no time for holiday blues, only holiday presence, (as in showing up) for yourself and others!
For the holidays surround yourself around love, people and food- even if its at someone else's table!!
presents don't mean anything over presence!!
Be there in the moment of the holiday, enjoy it as a time to feel love from others - presents are only material and won't last long but if you make a good impression with love and laughter, your presence will mean everything for the holiday - no matter what table your at!!! Go spread joy and love and know that you are loved and favored!! xo Happy holidays to all my readers and thank you for the support!!
Tanya
Friday, October 4, 2013
hi blog family!
so glad we made it to another day!! Life is good - when your living it without fear, with challenges and in good health!! Ask yourself again, what can I do today, to make next week better!! Always have a goal, stick to it and do what you need to do to put it in action! If you don't take action, no point in dreaming or setting a goal, it cannot happen without YOU doing the work!! Get out meet the people to make the right contacts, call whomever you need to call to ask questions, find answers to YOUR future by doing the work! Nothing great comes easy!! xo
so glad we made it to another day!! Life is good - when your living it without fear, with challenges and in good health!! Ask yourself again, what can I do today, to make next week better!! Always have a goal, stick to it and do what you need to do to put it in action! If you don't take action, no point in dreaming or setting a goal, it cannot happen without YOU doing the work!! Get out meet the people to make the right contacts, call whomever you need to call to ask questions, find answers to YOUR future by doing the work! Nothing great comes easy!! xo
Sunday, September 22, 2013
looking for former foster kids/adults who are in college to apply for scholorship or gift boxes
Hi blog family!!
what a great day outside! I am so excited about life, about the fact that every day I wake, I have another chance to be the best Godlike person I can be!! I have a chance to be wiser, stronger and more loving to others, making this life experience more pleasurable for everyone I come across!! I am sending out love and positive energy to you all. Know that you are loved and needed by this world!!
Life always gets better IF you make plans!! What are you doing today, to make a better next week??
Any of my group home kids who are going off to college and have NO family, please hit me up if your in need of a gift box for Christmas/Holiday break!! with snacks, personal items needed in school ( for guys and girls)...and lots of surprise items that YOU NEED while in school!!!
I find 10 people in college or trade school and I surprise them with a gift box - Courtesy of my friends, St. Joseph's Seniors!!
I had Quaker friends help me get through NYU and now I want to help those who have no home to go to on the holiday or during testing you don't have family to give you snacks during testing - FosterKidsUnite and St. Joseph's Seniors - we got you!!!:)
Also The Robert Cooper Memorial Scholarship application will be ready by January - send me your info if you are aging out and going to school and want to apply - (*winners must be present to receive award and prize $)* put FosterKidsUnite in the headline please***tgirlcooper@yahoo.com
If your a social worker, teacher and you know a foster kid in school who may need a little help from a blog family- please email or leave your info!!
Have a blessed day and remember to help others, every chance you get!!!xo
Tanya
Saturday, September 14, 2013
Valerie - NoName by CampJam2013-NY
Valerie - NoName by CampJam2013-NY if God gave you Talent- USE it!! This is my daughter and her friends in the camp studio!!these young ladies
Are talented!
Are talented!
Valerie - NoName by CampJam2013-NY
Valerie - NoName by CampJam2013-NY if God gave you Talent- USE it!! This is my daughter and her friends in the camp studio!!these young ladies
Are talented!
Are talented!
Friday, September 13, 2013
Reflecting on you
Hi blog family!
I hope all the kids are back in school (and adults...lol), education is key to moving forward in life, especially if your stuck in the same place from 4 years ago!! Today I want you to reflect on a few questions. Think real hard and if you cannot answer them, you, like many of us, have lots of work to do!! Remembering God only wants the BEST life for you - so that YOU can go out into the big world and HELP OTHERS with YOUR GIFTS and Talents!!!
1. What have you done today to help save or change a life
(no matter how big or small the action - it could have been: you smiled at a kid that was crying from being bullied... at that moment your smile, could have been light, letting him know this too shall pass'.
it could have been: you told your sibling or friend that you did not want to go to a local party...and their was a fight and the police came, but because you did not go, they did not go and you both avoided trouble!:)
it could have been: a friend who was suicidal/homicidal (and you had no idea, just thinking they were "Emo" or "sad"- and because they met you, they changed their minds and later helped some else or became a doctor/counselor or nurse!!! (you may not know until later when they share with you). THink of all the people who helped you survive this far without parents or guidance? Someone had to be kind or say a kind word at some point - no man/woman can go it alone!!! We all need approval, guidance and love to nourish and grow!!!
2. Do you listen when your "gut"
"God" - or "the Universe" tell or guides you to do something and act instantly?
How many times have you thought not to do or to do something and something wonderful happens to the person who did act? how many times, at an event something said go over and introduce yourself to a person, and you did and became BFF or you got a job through that person or information that you needed!! Follow your good gut! it rarely steers you wrong! (something told you "not to do it...and now your in trouble or you missed your blessing)...
I had a co-worker who use to always want me to play lotto, (not condoning this but its an example), he use to always say, you never know when you will hit...now I had many dreams of winning and know I cant win if I don't play!! Well, he won $30mill!! I have seen movies that were blockbuster hits (I write screenplays BTW)....and have written but never sold similar scripts!!
Listen to your gut - it may be your money maker!!! We are taught at birth to NOT follow our gut but I say, its the universe/God giving you clues and if you act on them, it may lead to success!!
3. What are you doing right now - to make a better tomorrow?
You know life will be the same today and next week and next year, if you don't make a plan!! Go back to school or take a trade or youtube how to do - whatever it is you want to do and cannot afford!! There is SO much FREE information online, learning how to type, how to make jewelry, how to do excel - anything you need to know and cannot afford - go online YouTube has something for almost anything you type in!!!! FREE information!!!
Remember to reflect on you today! How can I be a better, kinder, productive me? WHat can I do to get more out of life (to my youngins...legally)..lol TROUBLE is never worth it - hard work...is worth everything and you enjoy it more!!! Go out today smiling, knowing that you have a future because YOU are planning it, writing it down and living it!!! Have a blessed day, God loves you and you have divine purpose!!!!
Tanya
I hope all the kids are back in school (and adults...lol), education is key to moving forward in life, especially if your stuck in the same place from 4 years ago!! Today I want you to reflect on a few questions. Think real hard and if you cannot answer them, you, like many of us, have lots of work to do!! Remembering God only wants the BEST life for you - so that YOU can go out into the big world and HELP OTHERS with YOUR GIFTS and Talents!!!
1. What have you done today to help save or change a life
(no matter how big or small the action - it could have been: you smiled at a kid that was crying from being bullied... at that moment your smile, could have been light, letting him know this too shall pass'.
it could have been: you told your sibling or friend that you did not want to go to a local party...and their was a fight and the police came, but because you did not go, they did not go and you both avoided trouble!:)
it could have been: a friend who was suicidal/homicidal (and you had no idea, just thinking they were "Emo" or "sad"- and because they met you, they changed their minds and later helped some else or became a doctor/counselor or nurse!!! (you may not know until later when they share with you). THink of all the people who helped you survive this far without parents or guidance? Someone had to be kind or say a kind word at some point - no man/woman can go it alone!!! We all need approval, guidance and love to nourish and grow!!!
2. Do you listen when your "gut"
"God" - or "the Universe" tell or guides you to do something and act instantly?
How many times have you thought not to do or to do something and something wonderful happens to the person who did act? how many times, at an event something said go over and introduce yourself to a person, and you did and became BFF or you got a job through that person or information that you needed!! Follow your good gut! it rarely steers you wrong! (something told you "not to do it...and now your in trouble or you missed your blessing)...
I had a co-worker who use to always want me to play lotto, (not condoning this but its an example), he use to always say, you never know when you will hit...now I had many dreams of winning and know I cant win if I don't play!! Well, he won $30mill!! I have seen movies that were blockbuster hits (I write screenplays BTW)....and have written but never sold similar scripts!!
Listen to your gut - it may be your money maker!!! We are taught at birth to NOT follow our gut but I say, its the universe/God giving you clues and if you act on them, it may lead to success!!
3. What are you doing right now - to make a better tomorrow?
You know life will be the same today and next week and next year, if you don't make a plan!! Go back to school or take a trade or youtube how to do - whatever it is you want to do and cannot afford!! There is SO much FREE information online, learning how to type, how to make jewelry, how to do excel - anything you need to know and cannot afford - go online YouTube has something for almost anything you type in!!!! FREE information!!!
Remember to reflect on you today! How can I be a better, kinder, productive me? WHat can I do to get more out of life (to my youngins...legally)..lol TROUBLE is never worth it - hard work...is worth everything and you enjoy it more!!! Go out today smiling, knowing that you have a future because YOU are planning it, writing it down and living it!!! Have a blessed day, God loves you and you have divine purpose!!!!
Tanya
Monday, September 2, 2013
for parents or those who are considering fostering or adopting save or change a life
hi blog family!!
I know this post applies for those who wants to foster, even former fosters this could apply to you!!
have you been called to foster or adopt?
has everyone and everything around you calling for you to help another kid without parents?
God wants all kids to have parents but sometimes Satan is busy and calls the very person who birthed you to give up, leave, die or become neglectful enough to lose their kids. Sometimes your parents are only a vehicle to get you here!!!
I am one of those kids and I am happy to say my mom did what was best for ME!!
I would not have flourished into a loving human being who respects all life, had it not been for the guidance of a great woman counselor a few nuns and my foster mother!
I can say that I still would not have been a murderer, thief or liar, because even before foster care, I did not bore those traits.
My foster mother was able to teach me to work with my gifts and use them to my benefit to help others. If she had been a selfish woman, she may have said, I can't raise all those kids, its expensive, they have issues... she could have made many excuses, but thank she did not have a selfish bone in her body! My brother and I were able to flourish due to her nourishing skills and patience!
If you are called to help foster children, answer the call - you can make a difference by teaching a kid who grew up in a group home all his or her life, family values, how to share, how to love unconditionally, how to help others, just how to be a decent human being who gives back to the earth and not take or mentally drain people.
Follow your gut, there are many free classes from social services, many stipends and support groups!! If you cannot give that child a secure home, love and basic food, maybe your right but if you can show love and support...you will be surprised who will take care of you when your old, who will come to your rescue, you get what you give, please give love and allow time to show you, they will love you too!!
Tanya
I know this post applies for those who wants to foster, even former fosters this could apply to you!!
have you been called to foster or adopt?
has everyone and everything around you calling for you to help another kid without parents?
God wants all kids to have parents but sometimes Satan is busy and calls the very person who birthed you to give up, leave, die or become neglectful enough to lose their kids. Sometimes your parents are only a vehicle to get you here!!!
I am one of those kids and I am happy to say my mom did what was best for ME!!
I would not have flourished into a loving human being who respects all life, had it not been for the guidance of a great woman counselor a few nuns and my foster mother!
I can say that I still would not have been a murderer, thief or liar, because even before foster care, I did not bore those traits.
My foster mother was able to teach me to work with my gifts and use them to my benefit to help others. If she had been a selfish woman, she may have said, I can't raise all those kids, its expensive, they have issues... she could have made many excuses, but thank she did not have a selfish bone in her body! My brother and I were able to flourish due to her nourishing skills and patience!
If you are called to help foster children, answer the call - you can make a difference by teaching a kid who grew up in a group home all his or her life, family values, how to share, how to love unconditionally, how to help others, just how to be a decent human being who gives back to the earth and not take or mentally drain people.
Follow your gut, there are many free classes from social services, many stipends and support groups!! If you cannot give that child a secure home, love and basic food, maybe your right but if you can show love and support...you will be surprised who will take care of you when your old, who will come to your rescue, you get what you give, please give love and allow time to show you, they will love you too!!
Tanya
Sunday, August 4, 2013
removing yourself from dysfunctional family and friends
I hope you are all enjoying your summer and getting the best out of your life by staying healthy, physically and mentally!!
I ran into an old friend and they shared how dysfunctional there family was and how they wanted her to come to a family wedding anniversary celebration.
The persons married were her favorite family members BUT a few of her past abusers; mom, brother and dad were going to be in attendance. She asked me what should she do and I told her whatever will not make her crazy"! she laughed, we laughed but I was serious!!
I was also glad for that one moment, that I did NOT have a family!! Why?
This abandonment, abuse, neglect can happen to people who grew up with their birth families!! I ever knew that until I got older- I thought I was the only one abused as a kid and here I had a friend who was abused by many family members AND they wanted her to stay dysfunctional by attending these family events as if nothing ever happened!!!! She ended up not going and felt better but there are
many lessons here!
1.
The crazy part is....
WE HAVE CHOICES!! "WHEN YOU HAVE YOUR HAND IN THE LIONS MOUTH...YOU TAKE IT OUT SLOWLY!!!" (that applies to those living in a dysfunctional situation now and you have no other way to eat, sleep or stay alive --you may be a minor with no options...so you do what you have to do to stay alive)...NOTHING wrong with that!!!
BUT....
For those of us who have moved out of the house,
got grown,
have a job that pays the bills,
learned to say NO....we have to learn to leave those behind that have hurt us-especially family!!
In my opinion, you never have to sit and have dinner with a family member who abused you in ANY way!!!
You may 'forgive' them but sitting down and having tea will only create ill feelings toward yourself, making you feel less than over and over again--I would not advise anyone abused to be best friends AGAIN, to be trusting, again of that or those person/s..who abused you!
.why? If someone was able to commit a crime against a child once.....they will do it again!!! This is not a situation where your family member just teased you or called you a name or two...this is abuse so bad you still have to work to keep your sanity!!!
This is a person that took control from you at a young age!
This is a monster that changed the DNA of your childhood memories!!
Remember: People are often creatures of habit and most of us do little to unprogram our brain washing from child hood--good or bad---so if your abuser never did therapy, it is likely they will not be healed and even if they don't "do it again", they may verbally give you flashbacks!!
Everyone wants you to "forget" and forgive" but no healing can be done until YOU get therapy and the abuser stays out of your life UNLESS you are ready to have them in your life!!!
(and not because you feel 'guilty'....you know how some cultures and religions do, they try to make you feel like an outcast even though you were abused!!)
I stay away from people, places and things like this!! Only God can judge you!! Don't allow humans, even if they are claiming to be "Christians or "religious" don't allow anyone to make YOU feel bad for being abused as a kid, it was NOT your fault, YOU did NOTHING wrong and you were violated!!! not acceptable!!
you as you are...even when you don't' want to be friends with someone that hurt you and changed your life forever... I did not say that means life will be great but at least you wont have to create self doubt or self hate. I find this a lot among people who try to hurt themselves--internalizing pain instead of nipping it in the bud AND getting rid of it---often appear to cause internal pain and anger...and fear of being alone having no one... I would rather have no one than to sit and have dinner with my abuser!!!! I often miss my foster family events , they were fun, but I know I can never attend them, if I want to keep MY sanity...and remember in this life....its all about YOU surviving and thriving..so you ...can help others heal!!!
DONT ALLOW DYSFUNCTIONAL PEOPLE TO HOLD YOU HOSTAGE!!!!
You are special, loved and life always gets better, if you wake in the morning!! lol..xo
Tanya
We have to remember to
Monday, July 22, 2013
R.I.P little brother..Michael Bublé - "Home" Official Music Video
happy 45th bday to my baby brother Robert - we miss u dearly!!
for anyone who has lost a sibling, living without family - know that you are loved and that person's spirit still lives on thru you and by you helping others!!
I was greatful that God gave me 41 years with my brother, my friend lost his sister when she was 15!! Always be grateful for ANY time you have with a family member you love and that loved you unconditionally!! Nothing is promised in this life accept death and taxes!! Love your siblings if they are in a group home or separated from you write them a journal every day, call them, fb Skype them, send a letter, remember their birthdays...remember to say I love you before you go to bed and remember God made siblings to get you thru tuff times when parents aren't around!!xo
R.I.P to all the siblings lost who grew up in foster care!!
for anyone who has lost a sibling, living without family - know that you are loved and that person's spirit still lives on thru you and by you helping others!!
I was greatful that God gave me 41 years with my brother, my friend lost his sister when she was 15!! Always be grateful for ANY time you have with a family member you love and that loved you unconditionally!! Nothing is promised in this life accept death and taxes!! Love your siblings if they are in a group home or separated from you write them a journal every day, call them, fb Skype them, send a letter, remember their birthdays...remember to say I love you before you go to bed and remember God made siblings to get you thru tuff times when parents aren't around!!xo
R.I.P to all the siblings lost who grew up in foster care!!
Sunday, July 7, 2013
hardest part of your childnood?
What has been the hardest part of your childhood?
hi blog family!!
what has been the hardest part of your childhood?
was it being born to a person that could not take care of you?
was it before foster care...neglect, abuse, abandonment?
having no parents due to death or illness?
losing your family?
no family that came to rescue you from foster care?
feeling like no one routed for you from day one?
STOP THE PITY PARTY PROCESS!!!!
The fact that you are live....you have no hardest part!!
I know times seem hard when you have no birth family to claim you, when you have been in group homes all of your life and never had an adult tell you how special you are or that everything will be alright.
I know what it feels like to cry yourself to sleep because you have no one to give you a hug and tell you you are loved...
If you remember God is ALWAYS rooting for you, sending you love, (if you stop, breath and catch it, feel it when he is present---you will know because every bone in your body WANTS to do right, wants to be kind, wants to embrace love, allows you too look for love, peace and serenity!!!
You may be young but you are the most precious gift to this earth!! God has many plans for you BUT you must get off the couch....and go outside of the box!!!
You are human and it is normal to feel "unloved" when your parents gave you away or you lose them to tragedy. It is ok to feel "down" but what I don't want you to do...is feel sorry for yourself to the point that you are not being motivated to live your best life!!
Wake up Each day....and start over, with love, kindness and education of self...learn something new, befriend a person you admire, find a great role model..
Smile.....
breath
smile again
and get out of the house and off the couch!!! this is a big world, dream big, love hard and learn...you are NEVER along!! God loves you and you are highly favored!!!
the views expressed in this blog are of my own and from MY living in group and foster homes, my life experiences....I am not a Dr. and I only blog so that you may be encouraged to live a better life and NOT use foster care as an excuse to live a bleak life!! Get up Get out and Do Something...(Macy Gray)...lol xo
Tanya
what has been the hardest part of your childhood?
was it being born to a person that could not take care of you?
was it before foster care...neglect, abuse, abandonment?
having no parents due to death or illness?
losing your family?
no family that came to rescue you from foster care?
feeling like no one routed for you from day one?
STOP THE PITY PARTY PROCESS!!!!
The fact that you are live....you have no hardest part!!
I know times seem hard when you have no birth family to claim you, when you have been in group homes all of your life and never had an adult tell you how special you are or that everything will be alright.
I know what it feels like to cry yourself to sleep because you have no one to give you a hug and tell you you are loved...
If you remember God is ALWAYS rooting for you, sending you love, (if you stop, breath and catch it, feel it when he is present---you will know because every bone in your body WANTS to do right, wants to be kind, wants to embrace love, allows you too look for love, peace and serenity!!!
You may be young but you are the most precious gift to this earth!! God has many plans for you BUT you must get off the couch....and go outside of the box!!!
You are human and it is normal to feel "unloved" when your parents gave you away or you lose them to tragedy. It is ok to feel "down" but what I don't want you to do...is feel sorry for yourself to the point that you are not being motivated to live your best life!!
Wake up Each day....and start over, with love, kindness and education of self...learn something new, befriend a person you admire, find a great role model..
Smile.....
breath
smile again
and get out of the house and off the couch!!! this is a big world, dream big, love hard and learn...you are NEVER along!! God loves you and you are highly favored!!!
the views expressed in this blog are of my own and from MY living in group and foster homes, my life experiences....I am not a Dr. and I only blog so that you may be encouraged to live a better life and NOT use foster care as an excuse to live a bleak life!! Get up Get out and Do Something...(Macy Gray)...lol xo
Tanya
Saturday, June 8, 2013
how to tell if you have friends
Hi blog family!
you know how to tell when you have good friends?? You will find out who REALLY is your friend when..
1. Someone close dies ie..like my brother
2. you go homeless
3. get in trouble with the law, even if its a misunderstanding and your vindicated, when you get locked up and try to make a call".....see how many can get your kids, get bail or even visit!!!
4. You are having surgery and need a ride
5. You have cancer
6. You getting a divorce
7. Your money is frozen in your bank...
8. You are suicidal, homicidal or abusing drugs/alcohol
ALWAYS CHOOSE YOUR "FRIENDS CAREFULLY, ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE NO FAMILY- THEY WILL BE THE ONES WHO HAVE YOUR BACK IN HARD TIMES!!
THEY WILL OFFER SUPPORT OR IDEAS ON HOW TO GET HELP
THEY WILL LEND YOU THERE COUCH, $, TIME AND LOVE---WHENEVER YOU NEED IT!! AS LONG AS ITS NOT HABITUAL...( I DID NOT SAY THEY CAN BE TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF, I MEAN WHEN YOU HAVE A SITUATION YOU CAN COUNT ON THEM BECAUSE YOU WOULD DO THE SAME!!):)
I FOUND OUT WHEN MY BABY BROTHER DIED WHO MY TRUE FRIENDS WHERE AND WHO CARING PEOPLE WHOM I KNEW BUT DID NOT EXPECT THEIR SUPPORT - AND GOT IT BECAUSE THEY WERE GOOD HUMAN BEINGS WHO KNEW PAIN IN ONE FORM OR ANOTHER.
CHOOSE WISELY - look for support, growth, potential, greatness and love in friends- they will expect it back from you - as should be!
LIFE CAN BE GOOD, WITHOUT FAMILY, IF U CHOOSE GREAT FRIENDS!! don't allow bitterness into your life - your life is now what YOU make it!!
you know how to tell when you have good friends?? You will find out who REALLY is your friend when..
1. Someone close dies ie..like my brother
2. you go homeless
3. get in trouble with the law, even if its a misunderstanding and your vindicated, when you get locked up and try to make a call".....see how many can get your kids, get bail or even visit!!!
4. You are having surgery and need a ride
5. You have cancer
6. You getting a divorce
7. Your money is frozen in your bank...
8. You are suicidal, homicidal or abusing drugs/alcohol
ALWAYS CHOOSE YOUR "FRIENDS CAREFULLY, ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE NO FAMILY- THEY WILL BE THE ONES WHO HAVE YOUR BACK IN HARD TIMES!!
THEY WILL OFFER SUPPORT OR IDEAS ON HOW TO GET HELP
THEY WILL LEND YOU THERE COUCH, $, TIME AND LOVE---WHENEVER YOU NEED IT!! AS LONG AS ITS NOT HABITUAL...( I DID NOT SAY THEY CAN BE TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF, I MEAN WHEN YOU HAVE A SITUATION YOU CAN COUNT ON THEM BECAUSE YOU WOULD DO THE SAME!!):)
I FOUND OUT WHEN MY BABY BROTHER DIED WHO MY TRUE FRIENDS WHERE AND WHO CARING PEOPLE WHOM I KNEW BUT DID NOT EXPECT THEIR SUPPORT - AND GOT IT BECAUSE THEY WERE GOOD HUMAN BEINGS WHO KNEW PAIN IN ONE FORM OR ANOTHER.
CHOOSE WISELY - look for support, growth, potential, greatness and love in friends- they will expect it back from you - as should be!
LIFE CAN BE GOOD, WITHOUT FAMILY, IF U CHOOSE GREAT FRIENDS!! don't allow bitterness into your life - your life is now what YOU make it!!
Thursday, May 23, 2013
NYer Of The Week: Writer Inspires Foster Care Children To Share Their Stories
NYer Of The Week: Writer Inspires Foster Care Children To Share Their Stories
Our speaker for May 16th - Liz Welch!! Amazing journalist! FosterKidsUnite thanks Liz and her siblings for sharing their story and helping other kids in care!
Mayor Micheal Cindrich, (left) Hon. Kathy E. Davidson, (at podium), Tanya Cooper, Founder - FosterKidsUnite (blog).read event at chappaquapatch.com (story was by Tom)
*If everyone shared their bad experience in life, others would be able to move forward. At some point we all have lost a mom or dad and for others, a sibling.. Share, you will be surprised to see what we ALL have in common!! I always say: I have no secrets because God did not bring me through something for nothing!! lol
Keep sharing those who lost both parents, in foster care, you never know who's life you will change or save!!
Our event to raise awareness was a success! I love my town. I have built so many life lasting connections here! I could not do this work (while searching for a sponsor), without all of my brothers great friends!!
Big thanks to Our Mayor Cindrich for helping us out!
Fazzinga Roofing in Bedford Hills, :) you are all amazing,
Our honorees were amazing, thank you your Hon. Kathy E. Davidson, your work is very important to children and families!
Thank you Norma Staley for the 17 lives you have touched, keeping siblings together, believing in your foster kids, even when you are told they "can't"...amazing work..God always has the last say!!
Sen. Greg Ball, thanks for awarding proclamations, FosterKidsUnite believes community is everyone working together to bring awareness, thank you and your staff!
BIG THANKS!!!!!
- thanks to those who provided food!!
our event was a hit!
No event is great without food!! lol
Furman Printing - Bedford Hills
my partner Megan, thank you for everything you do!! "we never give up"
Our speaker for May 16th - Liz Welch!! Amazing journalist! FosterKidsUnite thanks Liz and her siblings for sharing their story and helping other kids in care!
*If everyone shared their bad experience in life, others would be able to move forward. At some point we all have lost a mom or dad and for others, a sibling.. Share, you will be surprised to see what we ALL have in common!! I always say: I have no secrets because God did not bring me through something for nothing!! lol
Keep sharing those who lost both parents, in foster care, you never know who's life you will change or save!!
Our event to raise awareness was a success! I love my town. I have built so many life lasting connections here! I could not do this work (while searching for a sponsor), without all of my brothers great friends!!
Big thanks to Our Mayor Cindrich for helping us out!
Fazzinga Roofing in Bedford Hills, :) you are all amazing,
Our honorees were amazing, thank you your Hon. Kathy E. Davidson, your work is very important to children and families!
Thank you Norma Staley for the 17 lives you have touched, keeping siblings together, believing in your foster kids, even when you are told they "can't"...amazing work..God always has the last say!!
Sen. Greg Ball, thanks for awarding proclamations, FosterKidsUnite believes community is everyone working together to bring awareness, thank you and your staff!
BIG THANKS!!!!!
- thanks to those who provided food!!
our event was a hit!
No event is great without food!! lol
Furman Printing - Bedford Hills
my partner Megan, thank you for everything you do!! "we never give up"
Sunday, May 5, 2013
Don't forget award winning Journalist, Liz Welch, "The Kids Are All Right" sharing her family memoir based on losing their parents 3 years apart! May 16th 4-6pm Mount Kisco Public Library!
RSVP!!!
free event to the public, (refreshments)
while I am embarrassed to show this picture, I want you to look closely at how thin I was, how my hair had fallen out - I first came into foster care around 5 but I came to the suburbs, (my first "foster home"), around 6 and then to this home around 7. As you can see I was extremely thin the first years, I had came malnourished and SO hungry!! It was due to my birth mothers addiction that we would often be left alone to fend for ourselves, which resulted in eating only what we could find!
Don't be sad for me, I made it through! I wanted anyone who is in a bad situation now and think you can't survive, You can - you are a winner! Sometimes we have to go through bad experiences to become who we are!
If I had not been given away by my mom due to her addiction, I would be less likely to have a need to be an advocate for foster kids!
I am grateful God spared my life and even though I was abused at a young age by two foster brothers in my foster homes, (one went to jail for 7 years for abusing a 15 year old from the school he worked at and " his 4 year old niece, (who he really served no time for because he "told" what he did to her...so much for justice).
You can look at things and be sad or be thankful for how strong it made you. I have to remember that I had a host of other foster brothers - that were great! I also had my brother with me until I was 18 and signed myself back in to girls residence in NYC! I want you to view your "problems and challenges" in a different light from now on - pull out the positive and process, talk about and release the negative effects!!
By speaking of the good that came out of the bad, you minimize the pain and sadness that can come from being abandoned, abused and neglected!!!
God bought me through this for something!! Yes, I was born to a mother with addiction issues - I'm blessed she did not abort me!!
Yes, She went so far into her addiction, she neglected us and chose to not show up, losing her rights" - but she could have left us in our no lights, no food, no interaction with people home, and we could have burned down the house by accident, (that almost happened when my brother took matches to the curtain, thank God my sister was washing my hair and next to water!!)
Yes, I had to move around for my first 7 years and live with mass amount of mean kids who teased me - but I still was able to go to Paris and become a runway model! (I had the last laugh)
and Yes, I faced homelessness, being attacked outside a village park randomly, being hospitalized - left for dead, and becoming a mother at 23! But I could have been dead from the first two and becoming a mother actually helped me get the therapy I needed to heal from being abused and being left in an orphanage at a young age!
The point is: Nothing happens without reason! IF you are lucky to survive, God had a lesson for you to learn and grow from OR teach others!!
Stop feeling sorry for yourself, stop complaining about negative things in your life FOCUS on the good people, get out and see new places and remember life ain't nothing but a learning experience for us ALL, rich, poor, black, white - everyone must learn or go through something!!
You are blessed and I am thankful today looking at this picture (60 pounds later, lol), that I have food, some of the same friends from that class and grade! and I found people who love me and I am truly happy!! Find your happiness in the pile of life!!! xo
Tanya
Friday, May 3, 2013
Hi blog family!!
May 16th is approaching for our Celebration - did you RSVP?? tgirlcooper@yahoo.com - you don't want to miss this event!!
So much is going on in in the world, just this last month with Boston, who knows when you will encounter an orphan?
The world is a great place and you should be ready to help others - at any time!
Come out Thursday May 16th and learn about how to keep Siblings connected.
I will be sharing a piece with you from my book: "Surviving Foster Care and Making It Work For You!" my heart breaking separation story from my older sister and baby brother!
Award wining Journalist, Liz Welch, "The Kids Are All Right" will be sharing her story of being separated from her siblings following the death of both parents, the subject of her memoir!
Congratulations to The Recipient of The Robert Cooper Memorial Scholarship!! Congrats to our honorees!
This is a FREE community event!
When: May 16, 2013 - 4-6pm
Where: The Mount Kisco Public Library 2nd fl
*(if your on time and stay..refreshments served:) lol
Change cannot happen until community gets involved and WE ALL do SOMETHING to help those without parents and resources!!
Because of my brothers generous friends, someones life will be changed, R.I.P little brother!!:)
"Do what you can, with what you have" is what my brother Rob use to say and I share this with you,
so that you can NOT wait until you RICH, Famous, to help others
but now with what little you have! Everyone has a gift! How can you use yours to help others?
You are your brother - and sisters keeper!!
I have no "money" but I am able to help kids through people who do!
Remember this: MOST people WANT to help - but sometimes you have to ask!
FosterKidsUnite is looking for a sponsor - please contact us if your interested!!
Smile, someone is watching you!! xo Tanya
Sunday, April 28, 2013
it's that time of year again! Come out May 16th and celebrate foster care awareness month at The Mount Kisco Public Library 100 E. Main Street 2nd floor
We will be awarding aged out youth in college with The Robert Cooper Memorial Scholarship!!
We will also be honoring one of our judges who does a lot to help kids in family court!!
Our speaker this year: Award winning Journalist, Liz Welch - "The Kids Are All Right" !
Free event to the public. RSVP:tgirlcooper@yahoo.com
come out and save or change a life! Don't wait for other people or Money to help others, do what you can, when you can, while you can!!! God always sends us angels to help - you just gotta ask!
Learn to ask for help and never have too much pride to to get help helping others!!! Many people want to help and do what's right, they are just waiting for you to ask!
You are blessed and favored and I hope to see you May 16th 4-6pm at the Library, make sure you come up and say hi to me so I can personally thank you for viewing our blog!! xo
Tanya
Friday, April 12, 2013
Hi blog family!
the ultimate win is when YOU get life! knowing how to love YOURSELF,
help others, travel, be at peace, enjoy all that God has made, that is when you can find joy and win in life!!
I also wanted to point out another important factor, HEALTH!!!!!! nothing matters if you are in bad health!! NO MONEY, LOVE, POWER can cure bad health!
Everyone knew my brother looked like a bill of health!
He was not!
CLOGGED ARTERIES!! FOOD KILLED HIM!! smoking cigarettes, not eating healthy...it catches up with us some time or another!!
Learn to eat to live!!
I do not want you to die young like Rob did! ( although I know lots of people who eat bad and smoke, and they live to be 95!! so each one of us is different remember!!!!
Although I always say we are lucky and blessed to have made it this far with our history!!!
I am thankful to God for allowing me to enjoy this lovely human being for 41 years!!!
(*May 16th we will be honoring him by giving scholarships to those who are aged out in college and those who help foster kids!! Free event, (with food) lol...4-6pm Mount Kisco Public Library!! RSVP at tgirlcooper@yahoo.com you still have time to buy: Surviving Foster Care and Making It Work for you at AMAZON.com
Learn to eat healthy. Stay away from fried foods, vegetable oils, (use olive or canola), stay away from too much butter, sugar, breads...if you know it was NOT in the Garden of Eden, stay away!!
your diet should be 75% veggies, preferably raw..
.NO I am not a doctor but if the you eat a lot of red meats, pork and processed foods....your colon has to work harder to digest all that!
Less is best!
Also EXERCISE!!!
learn to move, walk, run, bike, skate, basketball, swim, yoga...ANYTHING to keep your body moving and current!!!
A moving body is usually a better one!!
Remember to eat to live, not because there is food!!!
Today learn to be ok with who YOU are but know how to love yourself by being the best you!! xo
Tanya
Tuesday, March 26, 2013
Hi blog family!
What a lovely day out today!! OK my camera skills are off!
For those of you in our area, May is National foster care awareness month and FosterKidsUnite is planning our 3rd annual Robert Cooper Memorial Scholarship Ceremony!
Our speaker this year, award winning Journalist, Liz Welch! She will be sharing her story from the book her and her siblings wrote: "The Kids Are All Right" - a memoir on being orphaned after her parents sudden death 6 months apart! Liz does amazing work in NYC teaching foster siblings who were separated on how to stay connected.
I will also share my separation experience and tell you how you can help! Books will be available!
We are also honoring a judge from the 9th district and a foster parent that has nursed over 14 NYC babies back to health and home!!
Come celebrate our free event! We want our community to show our kids we care!
On today's notes.... enjoy each day like your last! Life is short and you can only do what you can do with what you have! I still have days when I feel discouraged but then word courage takes over...and I'm good! ups and downs are part of life, learn to process those feelings, work through them...and this too shall pass..
xo
Tanya
What a lovely day out today!! OK my camera skills are off!
For those of you in our area, May is National foster care awareness month and FosterKidsUnite is planning our 3rd annual Robert Cooper Memorial Scholarship Ceremony!
Our speaker this year, award winning Journalist, Liz Welch! She will be sharing her story from the book her and her siblings wrote: "The Kids Are All Right" - a memoir on being orphaned after her parents sudden death 6 months apart! Liz does amazing work in NYC teaching foster siblings who were separated on how to stay connected.
I will also share my separation experience and tell you how you can help! Books will be available!
We are also honoring a judge from the 9th district and a foster parent that has nursed over 14 NYC babies back to health and home!!
Come celebrate our free event! We want our community to show our kids we care!
On today's notes.... enjoy each day like your last! Life is short and you can only do what you can do with what you have! I still have days when I feel discouraged but then word courage takes over...and I'm good! ups and downs are part of life, learn to process those feelings, work through them...and this too shall pass..
xo
Tanya
Friday, March 8, 2013
Hi Blog Family!
REMINDER:
Another snow day!!! Well I guest being cold and having a warm home is better than being cold..six feet under!! lol.. I am grateful for EVERY day above ground!
May is National foster care awareness month!! May 16th is FosterKidsUnite event at the Mount Kisco Public Library!! Free to public RSVP at: tgirlcooper@yahoo.com or on FB -The Robert Cooper Memorial Scholarship
Our Speaker this year...award winning Journalist: Liz Welch will be sharing her book: "The Kids are Alright", sharing her work she does to keep foster kids connected to their siblings when separated!
We will be honoring a Judge from Westchester County, a Foster parent that has helped over 15 babies back to health and home and one surprise honoree!!
_____________________________________________________________________________
Today's Topic:
STOP TALKING START DOING!!
1. write down your goals, ideas -short term...like today things to get finished - or long term...like finish by next week or month
2. Create an action plan - how to get what you want: do you need people help you? Do you need money? How much? How long will it take you to get that amount? Do you need materials? Find out what resources you need to complete your goals!!! Start gathering it all, one by one!!
3. Execute!!! this is the most important step that is usually left undone!!:( We find people to discourage us, we discourage ourselves, we don't follow thru with "THE PLAN" - the one you wrote on paper!!
**like NIKE says: JUST DO IT!! DON' LET ANYONE, ANYTIME OR ANY THING STOP YOU FROM COMPLETING A GOAL FROM START TO FINISH!
IT CANNOT GET DONE.....UNLESS you DO IT!!! LOL
HAVE A GREAT WEEK, SMILE GOD LOVES YOU AND THE UNIVERSE NEEDS YOU!!!
Tanya
REMINDER:
Another snow day!!! Well I guest being cold and having a warm home is better than being cold..six feet under!! lol.. I am grateful for EVERY day above ground!
May is National foster care awareness month!! May 16th is FosterKidsUnite event at the Mount Kisco Public Library!! Free to public RSVP at: tgirlcooper@yahoo.com or on FB -The Robert Cooper Memorial Scholarship
Our Speaker this year...award winning Journalist: Liz Welch will be sharing her book: "The Kids are Alright", sharing her work she does to keep foster kids connected to their siblings when separated!
We will be honoring a Judge from Westchester County, a Foster parent that has helped over 15 babies back to health and home and one surprise honoree!!
_____________________________________________________________________________
Today's Topic:
STOP TALKING START DOING!!
1. write down your goals, ideas -short term...like today things to get finished - or long term...like finish by next week or month
2. Create an action plan - how to get what you want: do you need people help you? Do you need money? How much? How long will it take you to get that amount? Do you need materials? Find out what resources you need to complete your goals!!! Start gathering it all, one by one!!
3. Execute!!! this is the most important step that is usually left undone!!:( We find people to discourage us, we discourage ourselves, we don't follow thru with "THE PLAN" - the one you wrote on paper!!
**like NIKE says: JUST DO IT!! DON' LET ANYONE, ANYTIME OR ANY THING STOP YOU FROM COMPLETING A GOAL FROM START TO FINISH!
IT CANNOT GET DONE.....UNLESS you DO IT!!! LOL
HAVE A GREAT WEEK, SMILE GOD LOVES YOU AND THE UNIVERSE NEEDS YOU!!!
Tanya
Thursday, February 21, 2013
fosterkidsonly: Talent show surprise! Tati S.C.
fosterkidsonly: Talent show surprise! Tati S.C. talent 16 year old!!
Use your talent-it is what God gave you. Write better, sing harder, perform better, discover something new...we ALL have talent - find it and use it!! you may save or change a life!!
Use your talent-it is what God gave you. Write better, sing harder, perform better, discover something new...we ALL have talent - find it and use it!! you may save or change a life!!
Saturday, February 9, 2013
as I listen my talented 16 year old, I thank God for bringing me to her and her sister, my girls are the greatest gifts I could have asked for in this life!!
Wow! today is my 48th birthday!!!
I am SO blessed to have made it this many years being the child of an addict!!
I thank God every day that not only have i made it, but in better health than many!
We often take for granted the little things, I want you to know, I am blessed and highly favored no matter what has happened in my life!!
Even after abandonment, neglect, rejection and abuse...I AM STILL STANDING TALL!!
why?
Because it is my right to be happy and be a blessing to others when I can!!
I will not allow negative people, places or things to EVER change my giving heart, for it is one of the many reasons i think I was born.
We all have divine purpose and let NO man, woman or child stop you from your divine purpose of sharing, caring, mentoring and helping others.
The world has got some pretty selfish people in it today- don't let anyone tell you you can't help others if YOUR without money! that is a lie!! God always sends us angels when we need help!! I know because when I put out a call to send gift boxes to aged out foster kids now in college - St. Joseph's Church seniors came to the rescue!!! These ladies are amazing for helping me help 10 young adults who are without family. I cannot say thank you enough to these lovely group of lovely seniors, ( who all look fabulous and not like seniors"... if this is the new over 65....i can't wait!! These ladies have spunk, gut, wit and hearts of gold!!
My message: don't let anyone tell you you have to be rich to help others! If you have an idea, share it with your friends, church or anyone who will listen... I know gift cards and candy/snacks may not mean much to a kid who has everything but when you don't have family or your family is poor and your in school...every penny counts! Always remember to help AND say thank you to ANYONE who helps you!! Just because I ended up in foster care does NOT mean ANYONE has to help me, so I thank ANYONE who extends a hand...and I always say thank you! My foster mom use to say: you never know when you will need help again AND someone else may help you just for being thankful!! I am grateful for my 4 kids that sent a thank you, for those that did not, I am sad but, please know, thanks goes a long way!! You cannot be blessed until you have an attitude of Gratitude!!!
As I celebrate my 48 years..I will be thinking of you all who do not have family and those that do...love what you have now, tomorrow is not promised and help others when you can, even if its with a smile, word or gift xo
Tanya
Fosterkidsunite
Tuesday, January 29, 2013
SAVE THE DATE: MAY 16th, 2013 celebrate with Fosterkidsunite May, as National Foster Care Awareness Month at Mount Kisco Library again this year 4-6 pm.. This year we have an award winning journalist speaking and sharing her book and story!!!
As you can see, winter is here!! It can be cold outside and this weather can be less motivating at times, especially if your walking! lol.
I want you to think of ALL the obstacles you are facing today. At times life can seem Cold and unfair but that should never stop you from getting to your goals and being the best you!
I approaching another birthday Feb 9th and I often feel I am not "where I want to be"... but know that I keep traveling in this life, staying on track and getting back on when I feel I am falling off!
If you are a single parent, it can be a challenge to reach your goals, while you provide food and a safe home for your little ones....but that cannot stop you, it may slow you down but stopping is not an option!!
If you are living in foster care please start preparing your self for aging out by getting an education!! It does not have to be College" it can be trade school or classes but do SOMETHING that will ensure a financial future! If you had a child early you have to really stay focused and PLAN, PLAN, PLAN!!
Every move should be calculated and having a kid (if you did already), is NO excuse for failure or giving up!! I recommend NOT having ANY kids, until you have a career, can start a college fund for that baby, and hopefully a supportive partner/spouse that will provide financially AND mentally for that child!! I see why God made two parents...both are needed, not only so you can have relief at times...lol.. but so that another voice can guide the child....
I only say all of this because as I get older I realize MY mistakes, I have no regrets BUT I would have done things alot different had I known what it meant to live with no family...choose good friends, parents for your future kids...(that would be someone with an education and a career NOT a jump off, Dough boy, abuser, dysfunctional person that has NO goals or high thought of living their best life!!
Learn from my lessons Nothing can stop YOU but YOU! Stay focused and clear knowing that God and the Universe wants the best for you! I know it can be hard, I am still having a hard time, but I stay trying and refuse to believe that I cannot live a better life - today!!! xo
keep away from negative and work 3 jobs if you have to in order to achieve your goal, as long as your moving, thinking and taking action....something will come your way!!!
Tanya
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