Hi blog family!
I hope you are enjoying your summer, it is coming to an end so get out, get up and try something new!!!
I was talking to a friend who use to be in foster care and we discussed how hard it is to keep moving forward daily, without love of a family and someone to love! Nothing is stopping you from moving forward but you!! Holding on to the past. Whomever did you wrong forgive in your heart so that you can go to the next level of healing.
You cannot give love if you do not recieve it.
Perhaps you got use to NOT getting any love...ALL humans need some form of love!!! mother love, mates, friends, etc.. You need some human love to survive and thrive (atleast I believe you do)...
Most will run away from love of any kind when you were in a group home all your life.
We figured you get so use to not having any hugs or pats on the back to tell you your doing good.
As you get older, this no longer works and could hinder future relationships with mates, friends or family members. The friend expressed how hard it is to trust people or get close to them.
This is normal for what they have been through. They built a wall to protect themselves from anyone leaving them again...they forgot the wall was only good for THAT situation not everyday life!!
With proper therapy, honesty and sharing feelings (good or bad) this issue CAN be worked through!
This is why it is important to find a good therapist that you can share past experiences with. This work does NOT happen overnight BUT if you do the work--you will see results like: your interest in dating, finding new friends, trusting more people by their actions, not by your past experience.
You will realize not everyone will leave you and even if someone does, it is ok to go on to the next one!!
I am not a phychologist but you can figure this out with hard work, sharing and honesty....find a great therapist or a group that YOU beleive in, open up and start your healing in relationship process!! Life is more fun when you can build new friendships and repair any relationships worth saving!! Life is meant to take chances and try new things, not stay stuck on one issue! Always find the help you need to grow as a human being. Try to find people, places and things that help YOU become a better person!!!
enjoy your friday xo
Tanya
I hope you are enjoying your summer, it is coming to an end so get out, get up and try something new!!!
I was talking to a friend who use to be in foster care and we discussed how hard it is to keep moving forward daily, without love of a family and someone to love! Nothing is stopping you from moving forward but you!! Holding on to the past. Whomever did you wrong forgive in your heart so that you can go to the next level of healing.
You cannot give love if you do not recieve it.
Perhaps you got use to NOT getting any love...ALL humans need some form of love!!! mother love, mates, friends, etc.. You need some human love to survive and thrive (atleast I believe you do)...
Most will run away from love of any kind when you were in a group home all your life.
We figured you get so use to not having any hugs or pats on the back to tell you your doing good.
As you get older, this no longer works and could hinder future relationships with mates, friends or family members. The friend expressed how hard it is to trust people or get close to them.
This is normal for what they have been through. They built a wall to protect themselves from anyone leaving them again...they forgot the wall was only good for THAT situation not everyday life!!
With proper therapy, honesty and sharing feelings (good or bad) this issue CAN be worked through!
This is why it is important to find a good therapist that you can share past experiences with. This work does NOT happen overnight BUT if you do the work--you will see results like: your interest in dating, finding new friends, trusting more people by their actions, not by your past experience.
You will realize not everyone will leave you and even if someone does, it is ok to go on to the next one!!
I am not a phychologist but you can figure this out with hard work, sharing and honesty....find a great therapist or a group that YOU beleive in, open up and start your healing in relationship process!! Life is more fun when you can build new friendships and repair any relationships worth saving!! Life is meant to take chances and try new things, not stay stuck on one issue! Always find the help you need to grow as a human being. Try to find people, places and things that help YOU become a better person!!!
enjoy your friday xo
Tanya
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