How deep is your pain for motivation

Hi blog family!

I mentioned before that your habits are only as good as your tolerance for pain. Some of us learn by our pain levels.
When you were a kid you did not touch the stove because you knew you would get burned, (because at some point you put your hand next to it and found out it was HOT)...
now think of this example for everything you want to change in your life.
Bad relationship,
overeating,
no career/job
bad friends
no friends
.. If you find out what level of pain you are willing to live with, you will find your motivator!

Now the exception is: some people may actually have mental disorders that require medications...(if you think you will hurt yourself, someone else or just stop  enjoying life..you may need therapy and they will decide if you need more.
I am NOT talking about this type of person!
I am talking about those that may have grew up in a group home or a home with NO structure, deadlines,
 boundries....
so you may not eat, eat too much- even when the doctor is telling you its killing you, may not excersize, you may do things, you know will make your mental and physical health bad....(smoking)
YOU DO THIS BECAUSE YOU DID NOT SET A LEVEL OF PAIN THAT WOULD STOP YOU WHEN IT HURTS SO BAD!!!!
I want you to think of your most painful moment, remember it, use this memory to motivate you NOT to do the same thing you did before!! Set up a plan to get out of debt, don't get more credit cards!
let go of your abusive partner, don't marry them and have kids!! (this is harder than it seems but you can go to places like my sisters place and other woman's safe haven from abuse)
if you are overweight and the doctor says your diabetes is because of it, SET up a workout plan, walk 5 miles a day..it cost NO money, its free to walk...get rid of your bread, pasta and rice.... only good carbs!! If your children are acting "bad" - learn how to discipline them with love and it will not be easy if your use to spanking and yelling BUT it can be done...(you can train your toddlers to do a new behavior within months IF you stick to the pattern!! have them sit in the chair or  go to their room, no tv, no facebook...you know, age appropriate...
THe point: life will not change and get better, until YOU take it by the horns and steer it where you want it to go!!! Nothing worthwhile is easy. This is YOUR life and it was meant to be lived with happiness, joy and sharing and caring, not pain...If you experience pain in a lesson, its good, if it motivates you to do better, help others and live life to the fullest!!
Use pain to motivate yourself not keep you down.. Even when someone close dies, start a scholorship fund in their name, help a kid that needs a big brother/sister..LET YOUR PAIN HELP YOU!! xo

smile, someone is watching you!!! you may save or change a life!!

alot to be thankful for...even in recovery

Hi blog family!

Recovery from anything is a long, slow process and we should never rush" to get better, from surgery,
addiction,
injury's,
ending relationships (with friends, workers or mates)
or trauma, (to the mind or body)
- take your time healing,
 life-
 if you wake up-
will be here!

There are many things to be learned after a troubled or difficult child hood, (abandonment, abuse, neglect)- its all trauma but you made it to adulthood- cheers to you!
  TAKE YOUR TIME HEALING - if you go through your pain, realize your strength and weaknesses from it, and then process in a way that is managable for you- you are on your way to a full recovery from anything!
Please pray for our family's in Japan, there are many new "foster kids" due to this situation, if you do nothing today, be greatful for what you DO have, what you CAN do and that you ARE on the road, to RECOVERY- you don't have to rush, be willing, loving and take your time!!
smile someone is watching you! (your smile could make someone's day, your positive energy could give someone depressed..hope...try to smile everyday you wake for this reason!!!
xo Tanya
ps. my book: Suviving foster care and making it work for you is available at lulu.com please buy for yourself or a teen you know who is having a hard time, I assure you, it will change or save a life!!

John Frisby performing at the Five Minute Follies

praying for japan

hi blog family!

pray for Japan and all the other Countries/places that had catastrophic events. You must always meditate harder for others than yourself- it takes your mind off of your problems when you help others!!! Remember when it comes to catastrophy's, drugs and life--their is no discrimination so we must ALL come togeather for the sake of this earth.
Hold Japan in the light (pray) (meditate)- whatever your preference but think of those in need today, and worry about you another time.
Please pray for any kids left in the orphanages there, pray that those who make it are resilant, and hold on until rescue comes.

Man thinks he is smarter than God or the Universe- it can never be and we will see many more things happen that NO ONE has control over! The lesson will be for ALL of us to come togeather, or destroy one another!
Remember the earth will always be here, we are the ones that will vanish or change form if man does not stop thinking he is creator...We all have divine purpose, what is yours, what legacy do you want to leave if you died today?? think, meditate and take action-today!

if you have food, shelter & health - you should be praising the universe/God for letting you rise one more day without incident.
You can show you are grateful by helping others- that can be with a smile, deed, check or prayer! xo
Tanya

proverbs for the day

You always have hope-never give up!
feel like you won $1 million dollars = every day!!!
You are worth more than gold to this universe!
 xo Tanya

Xavier Simmons - Simpler Things

always support young talent!

healing from abuse

hi! i posted this for the teens but you know many of us as adults never discussed our issues of abuse, please view and talk about it, process IF any type of abuse happend to you as a kid. This is the only way to a positive, productive future!! Heal by talking and processing, then placing it on the back burner! xo Tanya