Hi blog family!
trust- does this issue come up often- it should because the first person you trusted--your mom and dad--have vanished out of your life due to abuse, neglect, death or abandonment!
How do you move on from that? One day at a time-like they say in AA!
You have to start by trusting yourself- knowing that you did whatever you had to do to come through this far-that was no easy task!!
You can also start by PRACTICING each day how to trust.. perhaps tell a friend a little more information or a mate- something you would not trust them with BUT not so much information they could think it's too heavy....example .....if your an adult perhaps a friend shared information and you clamed up and did not share--next time the topic comes up--you can share....maybe your the type of person that NEVER shares any information==when you learn to trust you will practice telling a LITLLE information.
You cannot become good at trusting until you practice with people you do love and trust in your life....if nothing else, you will learn how to pick trustworthy people by NOT having them throw what you said back at you when they are angry.. and if they do....SO WHAT!! the world will not end just because someone knows you lived in a group home -if anything- they may understand and respect you more...
Read and Laugh--yes, learn to laugh at yourself...read every self help book you can on how to trust others--youtube it google it...whatever..just learn everything you can about trust....
Open your heart--know that not everyone is out to get you--infact no one is, the bad just have a different lesson to learn and we may become their victim... When someone comes along that is good to you--go with it unitl they show you they are not worthy..Don't assume everyone wll leave or hurt you--assume most people like you and want to help you.....
you are blessed and loved-smile, someone is watching!!
This is a place where you can come for advice or a kind word. If you are in a group home, Foster care or had no family due to any circumstance, There are many things you may not have learned. I hope to motivate change in your life! If you have no family to inspire you on bad days, you may find something here to show you how to get out of your bubble and "take back your life! * These words are my opinions only and based on my 16 years in foster care! FosterKidsUniteInc@gmail.com
Monday, August 30, 2010
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If you are looking for a sibiling that was adopted please leave me a post..maybe we can find our sibilings here..i am looking for baby brother Mark who was adopted to a family of doctors in Elmsford,NY in the 1970's he was born oct 6th 1970/71..reddish hair, freckles..would look like chris brown with age progression..post any thought u may have!!
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When it comes to trust I'ma paradox. While I am an open book to anyone willing to listen, at the same time i suspect that many of them will judge me. I also blog a lot and I talk about issues that are on my mind. Anyone in my home town or old friends can easily find out my inner most thoughts simply by searching on Yahoo. I figure that there are a lot more people who will identify with me though, so it's not that big a deal. All I did was find out who can be my friend a whole lot easier as well as validate many people's secret lives.
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