Taking action when your chips are down

Hi Blog family!
I'm feeling like a Quala Bear today! lol

I was sharing my dream with a friend and they so believed in me, they signed me up for a comedy class i needed to get back in the game! I say all this to say...
its ok to share your dreams, sometimes when you have NO family support, it may be your friends or a stranger that you shared with that will help you achieve!!

Have a great day and know you are special and loved!! Sharing is caring, caring is taking action, taking action...is doing it!!

Go out and do something to get closer to your dream, sign up for a class, ask for help, many scholarships out in this world for many things. Never take no for an answer!! Take action!!!

Save the date May 28th - Mt. Kisco Library - FosterKidsUnite will have speaker Robert Hafetz PHD. doing a workshop and book signing!!!! I will share the topic by next week. Adoption and Foster care - healing from Trauma - you don't want to miss this!!

Tanya

Happy Valentines Day thanks for the love

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY BLOG FAMILY!!!

I am hoping you are all well. I have been a busy girl planning another free event for May National Foster Care Awareness Month! Save the end of the month for us. This year we have speaker PhD. Robert Hafetz doing a one hour workshop and speaking on : "Interventions for Maternal Loss and Developmental Trauma in Adoption and Foster Care"
I WILL LET YOU KNOW WHEN I HAVE A SOLID DATE, IT WILL BE AT THE MOUNT KISCO PUBLIC LIBRARY AGAIN!!

One person at a time we will reach one foster kid, teach those who work with foster and adoptee's and teach them all to PAY IT FORWARD - THIS IS THE ONLY WAY TO ADD MORE LOVE IN THIS WORLD BY HELPING OTHERS!

FosterKidsUnite with the help of St. Joseph's Seniors, was able to provide 10 gift boxes to aged out foster kids in college!!
THANK YOU ST. JOSEPH SENIORS!! YOU ARE DOING AMAZING WORK AND WE ALL THANK YOU, SOMEONE WILL HAVE A BETTER LIFE BECAUSE YOU TOOK TIME!!XO

TANYA

your first week in a group home or foster care?

New Beginnings

Hi blog family!

life is moving so fast, I often feel like I'm in a race!! No worries, I am able to keep up, even if I lag behind, I will catch up! Do you ever feel like your on a spinning wheel, your the RAT, that keeps running in circles? Welcome to the club! lol

I want you to go into the new year knowing that WE SHALL OVERCOME!!!!! Dr. King must have been psychic as he said In this quote -  a truth that all older people seem to know. I know life is stressful, at times tedious, grueling, cruel and occasionally sprinkled with wonderful, peaceful and loving....NOT...lol but all things pass in time! No matter how bad today, IF you start again and live, all things pass!!
The New Year is about bringing forth all of your DREAMS, wiping old Slates away, getting rid of negative energy, (people, places and thangs...yes, I said thangs for things) :) - keep in mind I am a comedian, I can laugh at ANYTHING - yes, I have foster care jokes too!!!  for the new year learn to laugh and be the best you can be - you come from the greatest stock in the world - xo Tanya

E.L.L.I.S. BOYZ TALKS ABOUT NEW SINGLE / R&B GROUP ALLURE TALKS ABOUT ALBUM

Todd Wharton CEO of Local Talent Connect interview Greatest Entertainment

Happy holidays! I am working on being the queen of late night TV one day!! If you have a dream, never give up. The $ may not be there just yet, you may not have help but if you keep pressing, God will send you angels who will help you achieve! No Dream is too big!! Write down your goals and share so that you keep on track!! Have a happy holiday and remember you are NEVER alone, God walks with you, he is the footprints in the sand, he is the one who has the final say! If you have talent, use it, perfect it, and learn to get out there and do something that will help you achieve your goal of success for the new year!! xo
Tanya

E.L.L.I.S. BOYZ TALKS ABOUT NEW SINGLE / R&B GROUP ALLURE TALKS ABOUT ALBUM

As you all know, I am a jack of all trades! lol but I did go to NYU to do only this one day....and have my own late night talk show!! A girl can dream!! BIG!!
Don't let others make you feel bad if you have more than one talent!! Do them all!!! Like Beyoncé says and does...don't ever be comfortable and content, always strive for more, bigger, better! Not for materialist gain, (this is the Tanya part talking),lol... but because God has given you SO much brain power that you barely use 60%!!! Imagine if you: wrote that play, sung that song you wrote, performed in the play, invented a new product, raised your kids, went back to school....ALL at one time!! You do know that you have that capability? God did not make any dummies, only people who listen to negative thoughts and refuse to act on the positive ones, thereby only living basic and barley getting by! It is ok if you are the one for that life, but I know in THIS life, I want to BE ALL that I CAN BE TODAY!! That means hard work, ethics, positive friends, accepting that at times I may be lonely because everyone will think I am crazy when I don't want to go out for a party or follow the in crowd.... Whatever YOU do....be true to YOUR vision and what God has blessed YOU with. Stay blessed and enjoy this interview I did with these lovely artist...they are true to what God blessed them all with vocals!! xo T

No Time For Holiday Blues

No time for Holiday Blues

Hi blog family!

it has been a minute - but life is good! I am on the grind, trying to bring my gifts forward that God gave me!!
 I finally got the guts to get back on stage after memory issues!
 I auditioned for America's Got Talent!! You all know I love telling jokes!! Have to wait till February to find out!!!:( - who does that!!
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Holidays are approaching!
This is a high time for suicide rates and depression. But not for us. Life is our only option!! Remember our ancestors came through oppression, which can be worse than death!
 If they made it over on boats in horrible, crowded conditions, survived whippings, abuse of all kinds, YOU owe it to our ancestors to find a way out of your darkness and into the light we ALL have, if we turn it on!

 For my group home kids who have no family to go home to and for anyone who has no family for whatever reason,  Holidays can be very lonely for some and sad BUT....not for you! Here are some tips on how to break away from the holiday blues!

1.  surround yourself around good friends, (if you don't have any...get to looking!!) lol

There are many ways to meet new quality friends;
 engage in conversation
 join a group
 take a class in something that interest you
 God did not intend for you to do this journey alone. We all need at least one friend!

I am praying that none of those without family will feel lonely this holiday!
Know that God is always sending you angels right here on earth - you have to find them and know when they are present!!

If you have no one for this holiday
2. go to a church or pantry that is having dinner, meet new people!
 Try to gravitate towards the ones who want to get out of their current situation
who wants to grow
 You can spot haters, naysayer and non believers from a mile away! (just look for the signs; saying negative things, being negative-violent-mean or nasty!
*Look for the people at the table who are grateful that someone took the time to think about them so they could share a meal!
look for someone who gives a complement or kind word!
Angels are all around us in many forms!!
Remember you are NOT alone if you have God in your heart and will power - you are never alone.

3.Think good thoughts this holiday. Stop associating with bad times,  even if you do not get one present, the fact that you have life and speech and can move is present enough - nothing like the gift of life!
The fact that you are here is the present, (the gift), - anything could happen at any moment!
 It means you could go out and make a million dollar idea NOW!!
It means you could walk into the love of your life - at any moment
 it means that you could talk a friend out of hurting themselves or others because God gave you the brain power to negotiate!!!

You are divine! Use what you were born with!
There is no time for holiday blues, only holiday presence, (as in showing up) for yourself and others!

For the holidays surround yourself around love, people and food- even if its at someone else's table!!
presents don't mean anything over presence!!
Be there in the moment of the holiday, enjoy it as a time to feel love from others - presents are only material and won't last long but if you make a good impression with love and laughter, your presence will mean everything for the holiday - no matter what table your at!!! Go spread joy and love and know that you are loved and favored!! xo Happy holidays to all my readers and thank you for the support!!

Tanya

- See more at: http://tanya-onthetown.blogspot.com/2013/11/hi-blog-family-it-has-been-minute-but.html#sthash.wsguI7Qp.dpuf

Reflections of where i was, who helped save me and those that help link

hi blog family!

I was reminiscing over an old elementary school pic, (I started school very late), due to neglect and moving around. I was so malnourished in this photo but I am thanking God for a birth mother who knew - she was an addict, and loved us enough to give us away..(strange to say but I was starving and living in horrible conditions)..
 Thankful to my sister, who knew we would starve if we did not get help
 and my 2nd foster mother Rev D, who got me around 7, (the courts did not know how old I was so the judge gave me an age two years older!! lol, he asked me how old do I want to be and my dumb self said 9!!! lol), (my birth Grandma & family confirmed I am younger. .to late to change the records!!!) lol
I am so thankful to God for my life looking at this picture my abuse by my two brothers had not started yet so life was good and I finally had FOOD!! I remember when they came for us we had no clean clothes or food, I talk about it in my book; Surviving Foster Care And Making It Work For You! www.amazon.com  I wish the worker would have bought food!!

I wanted to share the work others are doing to help foster kids! Have a great Turkey day and if you have no family - go to your local church or pantry - somebody is serving food!! Do

not stay home by yourself wishing, hoping and praying when you can GO OUT and find good people who love and care about you! You are a star and a winner!! Happy Holidays!!
xo T

here is the link! Always support those who help kids in foster care - talk is cheap action is everything! I know because I would still be malnourished had someone not stepped up and I would have had to drop out of NYU had someone, (a kind Quaker..R.I.P Mrs. Bauer), not bought my books!!! Any action is better than a dumb reaction!! (like when people hear our story's and say dumb things like "poor kids " or "its a shame" - Yea it is!! and that is why YOU should do SOMETHING!! Help SAVE or change a life!! xo
www.tureksplumbing.com/give-back-campaign/2013-tureks-plumbing-helps-improve-local-foster-childrens-lives.html

No time for Holiday Blues

Hi blog family!

it has been a minute - but life is good! I am on the grind, trying to bring my gifts forward that God gave me!!
 I finally got the guts to get back on stage after memory issues!
 I auditioned for America's Got Talent!! You all know I love telling jokes!! Have to wait till February to find out!!!:( - who does that!!
**********************************************************************************


Holidays are approaching!
This is a high time for suicide rates and depression. But not for us. Life is our only option!! Remember our ancestors came through oppression, which can be worse than death!
 If they made it over on boats in horrible, crowded conditions, survived whippings, abuse of all kinds, YOU owe it to our ancestors to find a way out of your darkness and into the light we ALL have, if we turn it on!

 For my group home kids who have no family to go home to and for anyone who has no family for whatever reason,  Holidays can be very lonely for some and sad BUT....not for you! Here are some tips on how to break away from the holiday blues!

1.  surround yourself around good friends, (if you don't have any...get to looking!!) lol

There are many ways to meet new quality friends;
 engage in conversation
 join a group
 take a class in something that interest you
 God did not intend for you to do this journey alone. We all need at least one friend!

I am praying that none of those without family will feel lonely this holiday!
Know that God is always sending you angels right here on earth - you have to find them and know when they are present!!

If you have no one for this holiday
2. go to a church or pantry that is having dinner, meet new people!
 Try to gravitate towards the ones who want to get out of their current situation
who wants to grow
 You can spot haters, naysayer and non believers from a mile away! (just look for the signs; saying negative things, being negative-violent-mean or nasty!
*Look for the people at the table who are grateful that someone took the time to think about them so they could share a meal!
look for someone who gives a complement or kind word!
Angels are all around us in many forms!!
Remember you are NOT alone if you have God in your heart and will power - you are never alone.

3.Think good thoughts this holiday. Stop associating with bad times,  even if you do not get one present, the fact that you have life and speech and can move is present enough - nothing like the gift of life!
The fact that you are here is the present, (the gift), - anything could happen at any moment!
 It means you could go out and make a million dollar idea NOW!!
It means you could walk into the love of your life - at any moment
 it means that you could talk a friend out of hurting themselves or others because God gave you the brain power to negotiate!!!

You are divine! Use what you were born with!
There is no time for holiday blues, only holiday presence, (as in showing up) for yourself and others!

For the holidays surround yourself around love, people and food- even if its at someone else's table!!
presents don't mean anything over presence!!
Be there in the moment of the holiday, enjoy it as a time to feel love from others - presents are only material and won't last long but if you make a good impression with love and laughter, your presence will mean everything for the holiday - no matter what table your at!!! Go spread joy and love and know that you are loved and favored!! xo Happy holidays to all my readers and thank you for the support!!

Tanya