Hi Blog family!!

Happy Turkey Day!! I hope You will NOT be alone and find a friend's to go to!! In my foster family there was always at least 12 people in our house for turkey day!! I am so excited to be visiting my friend and her husbands and their lovely kids!! 

It was hard when I aged out and did not have a family to go back to, (i actually had the option but read my book "surviving foster care & making it work for you Amazon.com to see why i never went back home after therapy).

Holidays after I aged out were sometimes with my brother that passed, my girls...and food... there were times when I did not celebrate but now I know I make my own holiday cheer!!!

I am excited for tomorrow because this will bring back the good memories in my foster home, when you had to find a spot to eat... when you had to finish getting dressed for school first to play a game of checker with mom before school! When you could choose which sibling you wanted to play with...war, army, barbies...(not...i had to ask my neighbor who was a girl!!)...a house with lots of kids has its advantage.....always someone there!! 

Please enjoy your holiday and those who have family open your home to a friend that does not have anyone, this is a very lonely time for most.
Suicide rates are very high, drug use and many people without family, hope or love may look for an escape - let them escape to your home filled with love, warmth and lots of Merry!!!

After the Sandy incident....we should be grateful for everything we have and if you don't you should be figuring out how to get what you need or want to be happy and productive! You only have one life- enjoy, share, love, live and pass it on...xoxox

Tanya

Hi blog family!

holidays are approaching...BEWARE...send love to others, open your home for the holidays to friends you know WHO DO NOT HAVE FAMILY!
Holidays are a high suicide time rate...especially those without family or lonely....try to extend yourself IF you trust the person in your home!!
Put a little love in your heart..."Al Green and Annie Lenox
think of your fellow man, lend him a helping hand, put a little love in your heart and the world will be a better place, for you, and me, just wait and see!! YouTube this song!!

Today, be kind to all you meet AND if someone is mean, aloof or a jerk......SMILE..GOD LOVES THEM TOO!!! lol
xo
Tanya

Hi blog family!

Thanksgiving is approaching! Share your home for the holiday" if you can with another former foster child or a kid from the group home (that you know) that has NO family to go to on the holiday! I am trying to enact a place every year for kids in my area to go.

Remember Holidays are a high time for suicide! No one wants to be alone or be reminded that they have no family. I struggle with this daily. It has been hard because before I was sexually abused by my two foster brothers, (one deceased and one out of jail after serving 7 years for molesting a student and his niece..) We use to have great dinners together as family, holidays were fun BUT I was robbed of that and can never go and have dinner or be "social" with the one that is alive....because I value my sanity too much! I know I am not the only one who has an awkward situation, and I won't be the last!

I want you to find positive friends, and if they cherish you, they will invite you to their home in times like these. There are people who never went to foster care and was abused by family, and cannot go home for the holidays (in order to keep their sanity)...that is ok..If you are a true friend you will never judge them or try to get them to "get over it"...or go back and "hangout" with their abusers..No one should ever be violated or forced to hang out with a person that destroyed their childhood innocence!!
This is VERY important for my readers to know when it comes to why people you think" have family are not going home, (besides the basic 20 somethings who are too busy enjoying life to go home) :) there are those who left their family for a reason! Don't meddle in their business, unless they tell you, just understand and provide an alternative for the holidays!!
God made us all to love each other when we are down, who will you help for the holiday?? Bring food to the pantry, open your home to someone who has no family (if you trust them in your home):) (i am NOT saying invite someone displaying multiple personality's in your home or Charles Manson!!!)lol..
I am saying if you have a friend that never goes anywhere for the holiday....and he/she is NOT the Grinch...invite them to share and see how a family loves, respects and eat together on the holidays!!xo

have a great day - know that you are loved, special and needed in this world!!!

Tanya

Hi blog family!

I know - its been a while but u can catch me at fosterkidsunite blog!!

So The Penn State Coach has finally gotten what he deserved for hurting children- LIFE!! He has so many counts, he won't be able to count his way out of jail!!

I am praying for all the victims!!

I am covering this story to tell you one thing:

When someone is hurting you - TELL, TELL TELL!!!

Never keep a secret with ANYONE who is touching you in the wrong place, starring at you in a bad way or making you do things YOU know are not right... Abusers always say the will kill you' or kill your family....so far NONE of them have told the truth!!

They will do anything to keep you trusting them and doing what they want!!!

If you know someone who is hurting you in any way- tell someone like a teacher, counselor or police..they are mandated reporters and have to tell the proper authority's!!

I am the victim of a child abusers, they never got caught for my abuse but one did serve 7 years for molesting his 4 year old niece in law- who told when she was 11!!

 I am proud of her for telling, even though no one believed her until the police did, they even got a confession!! Now thanks to her many kids will not meet the fate of this awful monster!!

 The other abuser was killed violently...:)..sorry but he basically ruined my trust  life..and I was lucky to get an apology...(rare for victims)...I can forgive BUT never forget...one was a sexual predator on weaker younger kids, the other used me as a sex slave for years..and was an alcoholic!!

You must always tell so others won't get hurt and if they do...you did your part!

Never feel shame, it is not your fault

Never feel guilty, you did NOTHING wrong!!

Never keep a secret, secrets turn into addiction, homicide, suicide and self hurt...

YOU deserve to live a healthy loving, pain free life!!!  You are loved, special and needed!!!

xo

Tanya

from victim to victor!

Hi Blog family!!
Honoring a great Woman today!! I woke up saying what is on my heart and being thankful for great leaders!! (the ones I chose to model after)...

Inspiration Role model of the day:
Salute to Dr. Betty Shabazz;
Educator
 mother of 6
 Professor and wife of the Late Great Malcom X.
She was a woman of honor, charector and NEVER gave up - even when her husband was assasinated - leaving her to raise 6 girls alone in grief from her loss but no time to pity, only time to raise her girls and get her degree!! AMAZING strength!!

If you feel down for any reason, perhaps you have kids, your financially challenge..(we don't say broke')lol..
Maybe you are not doing what you love or what you are good at -
NO WORRIES!!
 think of Dr. Shabazz when you need inspiration and their is NO WAY you could continue your pity party!!
Wake up - and find a solution!!
Life is calling!
 If this wonderful leader, educator, mother could raise kids and educate others during hard times and death, why would you have an excuse!!
Lets focus on NOT making excuses but on raising ourselves to our highest human potential!!

Anthony Robbins says: "Success is doing what you love, when you love, with who you love" - reaching financial independence is the only way to enjoy your life!!! ANYONE can do it with an idea, dream, follow-thru and determination!!! below is something I wrote just for you, it was on my heart, so I share!

What are you doing with YOUR TODAY?
Are you owning it?
Honoring it as the only TODAY??
Are you doing all YOU can do to be the best you?
Thinking every waking moment of how to be better do better ...LIVE BETTER!
Never accepting what others "handed" you..from your parents down to experiences...
YOU can do better, live better and be better....TODAY!!

What are you doing for YOUR TODAY???

Know that YOU are the King/Queen of the universe and the world won't ever stop BUT it moves funny without your input!!!
BTW: go watch Beast of the Southern Wild...it will change your life and you see it and it does not... ...ask yourself if you really have a life of quality and how to get one!!
...lol..  Seriously.... Best movie EVER!!
Great Movie!!!

xo Tanya 

AT THE INTERSECTION OF LIFE????

We all come to the middle of the road at some point in life. Is it time to re-evaluate what you ARE and ARE NOT doing in your life?
Does it seem life is "unfair",
are your relationships dull?
Do you have friends that do no encourage or inspire you?
Are you jobless?
 Do you hate your job?
Are you lonely without any family?
Are you doing what you were born to do or have you not discovered what your gift is yet?

Life becomes complicated when WE add more than needed!
STOP whatever is annoying or hindering you!
HOW?
Wake up each day and be thankful for that day, that moment!!
DO some form of exercise....the body needs discipline and to be moving"...
Eat healthy...veggies...:)
Write down your goal for the day!!! To be happy ALL day, to make a painting, do homework, clean a room, find new friends by joining a gym, play a sport,..whatever, just write it down!!
Write down your 5 year goal...this will help you get out of a rut and see action once its on paper!!
Life throws us ALL curve balls....its how you catch them and return the ball that counts!!!
There is NO reason you cannot be the greatest at anything you WANT to do!!
You are a divine person, created to do wonderful things....
EVERYDAY you wake, you should be trying to do better, be better and LIVE better!!!
Go for the $...in a good way..you cant really live "BROKe''' I tried it, its not effective and you can't get to your level of comfort...without being financially stable!! (I tried.....fail....)
What is your talent, skill, special gift?? find a way to make it a business" that will earn you money!!!

have a great day xo

Tanya
my question to you is??
WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?

Hi blog family!

It has been a while, life is happening...fast!! But I am eager to start every day new with a clear vision on the final goal!!

I was mentoring to a young lady last week that ran away from her kindred" foster home. I talked to her and told her why she needed to write out her goals, let the family know, as they were worried about her and WAS NOT going to just let her have her way!!
Sometimes we want to be grown at 18....and...were not!! I had to check myself back into foster care and if it was not for a modeling contract....I don't know if I would have been OK financially!!
Learn when YOU are NOT OK!! Learn how to coach yourself into SAFE situations!! This young lady had a "friend" that was going to "help her make $$$$....."URBAN Modeling"...GUYS and GIRLS I use to model for a few agency's...and a major one briefly....URBAN modeling as she called it is Bra's and Panties....A NO NO!!! This is not real modeling for a designer" this is for some sicko who is going to take advantage of you and have you doing drugs then working the streets!! DON'T EVER SELL YOURSELF FOR ANY MONEY!! NO MONEY CAN BRING BACK YOUR INNOCENCE AND LOVE OF LIFE!!! Learn to write out your goals and even if you crawl...one day at a time.....you can achieve ANYTHING!!
Remember you are from GOD and all things from his are perfect as they are YOU are it!! Go out and live life, enjoy, love and be loved!! xo

Tanya

Hi blog family!
REMEMBER THE BOOK IS ONLY $5!!! EVEN WITH SHIPPING LESS THAN YOU PAY FOR MOST BOOKS!! SAVE OR CHANGE A LIFE BY GIVING THIS BOOK TO A FOSTER KID, FOSTER PARENT, SOCIAL WORKER, ANYONE WHO HAS NO FAMILY OR HAS NOT HAD A GOOD PARENT!! I PROMISE YOU WILL LEARN SOMETHING!!:)


It has been a trying month, but as usual...the show must always go on!!
Nothing and no one stops because you have an issue or challenge...(you still need to eat, your job still wants u at work...the kids still hungry...the office is still open...lol...and neither should you!!

We have all had those days when we want to give up or we think no one cares or understands...this is the time, (according to Robert H. Schuller.."Tough times never last, but tough people do!"), to have the most faith!! We all know after the storm comes calm....when it rains in your life with issues or challenges....the sun HAS to shine...(unless we really mess up the ozone):)..lol..

NOTHING is that serious, accept YOU enjoying this life and going after ALL of your dreams and achieving financial success!!!

this is what GOD would want...as all the books I have read about God, he makes no mistakes and wants only the BEST for US...not JUST the 1%!!!! The other 99% don't get it because they accept what little is given OR they work for little goals!!! NO man or woman can stop you from greatness!! Only you can lower your standard and...attract lower standard things in your life!! Look at the DVD "the secret" based on the book i tell you about below...but we did not need  this man to "tell" us this..if you know the bible (i am not "religious) but i know some things as common sense and that someone greater than "me" made me and protects me".. just remember NO good father would want his child to "settle"!!!!! NONE in the UNIVERSE!!!!

How you view money and being "rich" (not to be greedy or save the world" but so that you can live comfortable AND help save or change a life...without it causing stress on your life!!) Read the title book below!!!!!! I wish I read this at 10 yrs old or 15....

During foster care you are never really taught money until you are older, "rich" kids learn the value of an idea and how that idea can translate to cash..early...
Foster kids, especially in group homes should be required to read Wallace Wattles: The Science of Getting rich- this book will change your life and how you view money.
It is free to download and read online and free at any library...get it!!

TANYA'S LATEST good BABBLE.......:)

KNOWLEDGE IS FREE
AND WITH KNOWLEDGE
AND THE RIGHT IDEA OR INVENTION...
YOU COULD BE RICH"...
THE MAN WITH THE IDEA WHO LEARNS TO ACT ON IT....GETS PAID!!

WHAT IS YOUR TALENT OR IDEA THAT CAN BRING YOU MONEY AND SUCCESS???? GET ON IT!!
LET NO ONE PUT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS IN YOUR LOVELY HEAD!!

YOU ARE GOD'S CHILD--YOU ARE PERFECT, SMART AND THE BEST THING ON THIS EARTH...

.LEARN TO GET YOUR HONEST SHARE...and want MORE.......never settling"...

 WITHOUT HURTING
OR TAKING FROM OTHERS!!

THERE IS ENOUGH FOR ALL OF US...NO ONE IS EVER YOUR COMPETITION -CAUSE THEY DON'T HAVE WHAT YOU HAVE AND YOU CAN'T DO WHAT THEY DO!!!!

LOVE ALL AND ROUTE FOR ALL-cause we are one, sent here to experience life, love and learn.!! XO TANYA

Scholarship launched for young adults in foster care

Scholarship launched for young adults in foster care the deadline for 2013 will be April 1,2013, we encourage those without family after foster care to apply and those aging out!

Hi blog family!
advice today:

"Only YOU can let yourself down!" We often forget people are human and our mates, kids, friends and workers will only act in a way that we allow. So if your being abused, neglected or forgotten, ask yourself, what am I doing to correct this? Hold people accountable for their actions...good and bad..and always hold YOURSELF responsible for ALL good things in your life!
Have a great day and smile, someone is watching you!
Tanya