Michael Bublé - Home [Official Music Video]

Cold feet, keeping in all together & Moving forward with life

Hi blog family!

hope your all staying warm! For those who don't have classes, I hope you are taking advantage of this off time by reading your assignments, (yes I said read), hanging with good friends who are going places, (and not wanting to "light up" all day...yes, I said that..i hope your writing down goals and checking off all you complete!


At times life can be hard for any of us and we want to get cold feet and back out of life...(not be fully HERE, in the moment).
 For fosters, especially those without any support, there are times when it seems like things will fall apart and you just don't want to try anymore!

I am hear to tell you, ALL things pass, (I like to say all things past), as whatever problem you have today, whatever person place situation is troubling you, eventually IF you stay around and ride through the storm, it will be a part of your past!
Even if you were abused, neglected, no matter -  IF you OUT LIVE the problem, (meaning you NEVER give up by moving mentally forward EVERY day, no matter what) - it will pass and be in your past! You will get courage to say no say yes, move forward, move on, move ahead! MOVE and keep on moving, (soul to soul)

If you would have told me almost 6 years ago that I would survive my baby brothers death, I would have said no way! But because I kept faith and remained true to a saying my brother and I started when we were in a group home, "We NEVER give up", I am not only here but doing what I can to help other fosters by turning my pain into a source of hope for others! I kept it MOVING....

You must remember ALL humans go through something and anything you go through means you made it and are living, therefore, you can be an inspiration to others!

Stay focused on being the best you, enjoying THIS life and helping others once you achieve a stable life. You don't have to be rich (lol Prince) just grateful and willing to help when YOU can with what YOU have, this is how I kept it all together, by helping others, taking the focus off of my pain.

Often we get caught up in "I" and forget "WHY" WE are here, never forget you owe your ancestors to find YOUR greatness.
Not everyone will be a celebrity and in reality that is all an illusion and distraction from our real purpose in this life....to help others! No money, fame or person can help you achieve the greatest gift God has given us, to RISE and HELP OTHERS! Be Grateful, be kind...be you xo

Smile, someone is watching you...and they may learn from your kindness! :)
T
*any questions? FosterKidsUniteInc@gmail.com
* SOCIAL WORKERS * FOSTER CARE AGENCIES *FAMILY COURT *FOSTER PARENTS WITH AGING OUT YOUTH ABOUT TO GO TO COLLEGE OR TRADE SCHOOL * AGED OUT FOSTERS WHO ARE AT COLLEGE

* NY youth who can attend our event May 21st At the Mount Kisco Public Library 4:30-6pm please social workers etc.. email us so we can send you the Robert Cooper Memorial Scholarship application due back by April 31st

 

they are wrong Lira - Something Inside So Strong (Acoustic)

hi blog family!



I found this singer by accident but this song sums up a winner, even when others think you wont be much or think you have no value as a people OR a person....you are a winner! Your still standing after abandonment- nothing to do but move up and show them what you are made of- God made all of us strong! :)

Tanya

how you feel today Lira - "Feel Good"

hi blog family!

sharing Lira's music because this is how you should be thinking each day you are blessed to wake! New chances New People, new places and a chance to start living your best life!

See life not as a challenge but as a chance each day you wake to enjoy ALL the world has- NOTHING is out of reach! Ask Nelson Mandela, Dr. Kings, Mother Teressa, Ghandi, and all our ancestors who survived slavery, famine and Holocaust! Nothing is perfect and only YOU can make it right! Enjoy your day in love peace smiles and happiness!



Tanya

Jobs | Supportive Housing Network of New York

looking for work? Hey blog family! check out this website for housing and jobs in NY- a lot of resources IF you LOOK for them online!! No excuse to be mediocre when greatness is your destiny! :)



As I gear up for the 50th bday, I thank God for bringing me, the child of an addict and alcoholic, this far! I thank him for bringing me through abandonment, neglect, abuse and my self pity, I thank him for all of you who are fosters, were fosters or work with fosters, we are all connected and I am grateful!



Hope you are writing down all your goals and making friends and contacts who can help you take your game to the next level!

If your in NY and want to apply for The Robert Cooper Memorial Scholarship email us: FosterKidsUniteInc@gmail.com




Jobs | Supportive Housing Network of New York

Getting to the real you

Hi blog family!

hope your well and living your best life!

As I set out to complete my goals for 2015, I often wonder how many foster and former fosters ever reach their full potential? How many ever get to the real person they are?

As of today you are!
Ask yourself:
 what was I born to do
 who am I
 why am I hear?
NO self judgment, just observe what defenses come up, ("I don't know") OR what gifts you have that come to your thoughts, (singer, writer, artist, organizer, healer etc)
* these are all gifts that will help you reach YOUR full potential.
* You are like NO other on earth and God gave you ALL the tools you need to get started to greatness!
***ACTION is all that is required!****

How do I take action?

You must learn to write down ALL your goals, small and large..if you can't SEE it, you can't believe it!
Writing down goals help you see what your doing and stay on track!
I promise you writing down your goals ALWAYS produces real results!

 For instance, I wrote down that I wanted to have my own late night talk show, be a comedian and perform at a known comedy club like Gotham.
I now host a cable show, (On The Town, interviewing comedians & other talented people in NY), (late night takes time, I am patient), lol and I have performed at Gotham Comedy Club, The Metropolitan Room and Caroline's since writing those goals down!

I could just give up but I don't because I know this is what I was born to do and doing standup comedy is the best way to make that happen! Since I first saw Carol Burnett and Johnny Carson, I knew I wanted to make people laugh and interview all Entertainment- this way I thought at 12 if everyone knew who I was, they would help me help more foster kids!

first thing I did was take a class to make sure I had the right skills to write jokes  IF I did not have the money for a class I would have went on www.Badslava.com and found out where open mics are, open mics are spots, Usually bars), that comics go practice in by singing up and getting 4-8 minutes on stage to practice their jokes.
I made a commitment to go to open mics at least 3x a week but I know a great comedian goes out every night!
If you have a goal, write it down and see what you need and who you need to talk to too find out how to get to the goal. Sometimes you have to stay up later than others writing or singing or whatever your skill but that persistence to be the best at what you do and never giving up is what will lead you to your greatness.
Get to writing!xo
T

saying thank you gratitude is everything

Hi blog family!

hope you are all well and have made your New Years resolutions in writing, on paper!

Wanted to chat a minute about thank you.

I thank the college youth that sent out thank you letters after receiving their gift boxes for the holidays!
There are some who still have not sent thank you self addressed stamp envelope back! I do not write this to put them on blast BUT to inform ALL foster youth: When someone, anyone, takes time or money out of their pocket to help you without asking for anything but a thank you to donors...DO IT!!
Your thank you may be the difference on other donors helping! Thanks to our Board member Sara and her spreading the word and my friends, we were able to provide 18 gift boxes this year! We might have had more if kids from last year would have sent a thank you, some from a local college never sent a thank you- which I think effected who from last year helped.

While I never do this work expecting a thank you MANY people who do give, especially when they had to choose WHO to give to, want to hear a thank you!

I ask for social workers and counselors to PLEASE teach our foster youth to say thank you in a letter or email and why it is crucial! I was surprised that a counselor would not follow through with their youth saying thank you for gift boxes. I understand some kids feel they are owed OR they don't think it matters to say thank you, I am telling you now, thank you could mean less or more help for you in the future. No one wants to feel unappreciated and remember many donors were NOT foster youth so they don't understand how we don't think its no big deal, I am telling you it IS always a big deal when ANYONE who is honest and wants nothing back, helps you!!! YOU MUST SAY THANK you so that you do not ruin it for other kids after you!

I got a nice video thank you from a young man who is a talented dancer, in fact, I have not been that excited about dancing since Michael Jackson! (yes, he and his friends are that talented!). I also got a beautiful letter from one of our graduates- much thanks to you! We also got a few other short thank you letters/notes/card. Just remember when you say thank you to donors PLEASE give us a little detail of how the items helped you if you cant think of what to say...People want to know where their money is going and you don't EVER have to give your name IF you don't choose to, I totally respect that BUT you can give a paragraph of why or how something helped you.
If we want donors to help we must be mindful that sharing your story or why something helped you, (no name details needed), is crucial for others helping us help you!

xo
smile, someone is watching you! :)
T
*if you need to reach us or would like a Robert Cooper Memorial Scholarship Application please email: FosterKidsUniteInc@gmail.com

Legally Kidnapped: Former foster children too often end up on welfare...

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Hi Blog family!

sharing from Legally Kidnapped - this info is no surprise as we often don't have family to turn to and if we do find family, often they are of no resourceful use to us if they are on drugs, in jail or on public assistance.



Starting as early as 3rd grade teaching foster youth, especially those in group homes/orphanages to set their life up for success. Good grades, college or trade school, linking in with friends and people that will help them when they don't know what to do about basic life issues; saving money, opening a bank account, building credit, why higher education is vital, all of these things are taught by a good parent, if we don't have one or both, how is this info going to be taught, processed and then carried out with daily small steps?



Don't beat yourself up if your one of many who needed some form of public assistance, section 8 or medical insurance.  Many look down on those that need help BUT they are not in your shoes, can never walk in your shoes and would probably have died IF they had to wear your shoes!! lol Atleast you are still standing and figuring out how to make your life better and more productive!

For the new year, I hope each of you take out paper and pen and write down your long term goals, (example: learn how to edit on final cut pro)..and short term goal; find free final cut pro classes, youtube how to do final cut pro or call the local community college and see if they offer the class, how much and are there scholarships. (You would be surprised how many scholarships, (money you don't have to pay back) are out there! If you live in Westchester County, NY Jacob Burns has film editing classes and many other film related courses AND they offer scholarships if you show financial hardship! DO YOUR RESEARCH!! if you want to learn a new skill or go to school, find a social worker or counselor at any local school and ask them what you need to do, but do something to assure you have a better future.



Life is always bringing challenges, its how we deal with them that matters! Face each challenge head on and IF you need government help, do what you have to to eat, breath and stay alive and warm, its cold out there!! PLAN for your future today- write down what you want, how you can get it, who can help you get closer to it and what YOU need to do to make it happen- YOU are your only HERO in the game of life, don't be scared be excited that you have been granted another day of life, if your reading this blog life can't be that bad, as you have internet! :) Be grateful, stay humble and stay hungry for more and to be a better you!

And tomorrow, the sun also rises, this too shall pass and you will look back and say, I never gave up" T

xo



Tanya

You Got The Dirtee Love (Live at The BRIT Awards 2010)uplifting song

hey blog family!



just sending a song of inspiration. we all have days when we feel down or we have self doubt- that is normal but staying in it, is not!

find a song that inspires or motivates you out of sadness- free on youtube! Always refer back to that song when things seem hard.

I hope you are all having a great new year!

We were able to help 18 aged out/fosters  this gift box season! Many thanks to our donors who worked hard to get items into those boxes!

We congratulate Mercy, as she has graduated and is now applying to grad school! Go girl! Remember only 6% finish college- they say but FosterKidsUnite, Inc. hopes by helping those in school we see them through hard times, therefore making it more probable that each of our kids complete their degree.

If you need to reach us: FosterKidsUniteInc@gmail.com



Please save the end of May for our yearly awareness event!



*Thank you to our Board members, Iris, Megan *a special thanks to Judy and Sara.

*To Sara's friends, co-workers and neighbors who donated: THANK YOU!!!

*To my comic friends  Maryelle Turner, Erin Vacarellie also earring designer, Kacey Petre and clothing designer John for donating lovely shirts for our guys and earrings for our girls!    

2015

Hi Blog family!

Happy New Year!

I would say FosterKidsUnite, Inc. had a great year!
 We were able to help 18 fosters and former fosters in need of gift boxes for holiday/testing this year thanks to our kind donors.
We are praying for a couple of our former fosters, as they are facing life challenges.

* Always keep each other in prayer, as each day presents a new challenge, health, money, love, sanity, closure, education, whatever, life stuff, I call it! happens to ALL of us daily!

For the new year, I want us to be MINDFUL of others feelings. THINK before you say unkind words, HELP another in foster IF you can!

Never look down on anyone, by the grace of God, there ye go I, is a known saying my brother use to repeat when he helped someone in need, saying: "T, that could be me tomorrow"...his words are correct; one day we do good the next, maybe not so much!

For 2015: please be mindful of your surroundings
 if you are around someone talking negative or spewing hatred- detach yourself
* hatred often breeds hatred as we learned from slavery and the holocaust-
you can never change an evil mind, why waste your time?
* (not to say if a friend is ANGRY you CAN perhaps help them be more positive, if in time they don't, you may have to leave them behind in pity party land....its draining to be around negative people, who NEVER see good in anything..**I call them life vampires!!! run to the light!! lol

 Move on  with anything or anyone holding you from your greatness!

 surround yourself around positive PEOPLE, PLACES & THINGS!!!!!!
 Life is hard for ALL of us, black, white, with parents, without parents, life does not discriminate!!!

 It is crucial that you stay positive and run from anyone on your team that is hating on others or are violent in ANY way, verbal or physical, "ain't nobody got time for that!"

My prayer for all my group home youth PLEASE respect the law by STAYING away from trouble!!!
 If you are not in with trouble, trouble USUALLY does not find you - meaning don't go to any rallies, protest that may have jerks waiting in the crowd to ruin it for everyone!! R.I.P to all those who passed in innocence (Garner) but sometimes you can't get into the mix (without a great lawyer), which many of us don't have- If you know its in peace and no violent words or behavior, so be you protesting, its your right BUT if your not sure and it could get YOU in trouble, Don't do it, its not worth being locked up for OR being labeled as something your not just because you marched! (although I have been in  a situation and know others where they did nothing and almost got in trouble or a beat down because of egos),  barring a few of those incidents, STAY far AWAY from ANY trouble people places or things IF you can help it! Life is short so why spend it in jail or court? That is the last place I want to see any of you, as I know God has great things for those of you who  follow your dreams and stay focused!

I can say to all my fosters: I love and respect you for moving forward without family or with the little family you have who may not be of much help to you in this life - its all good! Believe in you and when you make it, pay it forward for 2015!!! Love to you all and our readers! any questions email us:
FosterKidsUniteInc@gmail.com
R.I.P to my baby brother Robert Cooper, the reason I do what I do! If you know any foster youth ageing out going to college OR in college and need scholarship please email us! also looking for honorees for our May event where we award our scholarships- please refer a great person who works with foster or adopted youth to us!! :)

Tanya