Sade - When Am I Going To Make A Living

were hungry but we won't give up - hungry but were going to win! when things get hard, pray and stay focused on your goals - never give up! God gave you a brain, use it..xo

R.I.P Karen Soul II Soul - Keep On Movin'

let no one stop you from dreaming! stay focused, keep on moving...xo

Tanya

FosterKidsUnite, Inc official summer is upon us

Hi Blog family!

I am so excited that FosterKidsUnite, Inc. is now official! We are hoping to provide foster youth aged out and adults who were in care, and in school with non traditional services!
Congratulations to Devon, Shantha, (honorable mentions), and Mercy -recipient of The Robert Cooper Memorial Scholarship 2014!!! You are all amazing youth and I hope your rewards will help you with items needed in college!

I am so thankful we were able to provide an extra cushion to those in school and without parents- I made it through NYU because of Quaker who helped me with books!
Never take it lightly when someone or an organization wants to help relieve some of your burden from school! Be grateful someone is thinking of you there are plenty of places they could spend their money- be grateful and pay it forward!! No one HAS to help you, we do because we love that you are moving forward, even without family! We do it because we know you will come back and pay it forward!!

Learn to say thank you and always send a thank you note to any person or agency that helps you. It shows that you too took time to think of them!

I pray you are all ready for graduation and moving up! I want you to reach for the stars, the sky is the limit because GOD made you limitless!!

Congratulations to all who finished and worked hard. And for those that have to do summer school, don't be mad, put in the time and get your mind right- it will help you in the end get better work if your educated!! If this is your last year and you cannot go to college, don't be mad, find something you are good at, something the world needs and find a way to get it to us. You can start your own business IF you have an idea and can fill a need! my brother Rob and I use to say this when we were down in foster care: "We never give up!! and neither should you!!xo

Tanya

Celebrate National Foster Care Awareness Month!

Hi blog family!

I am praying you are all in good spirits and with love in your hearts and home! Don't forget our event May 28th at Mount Kisco Library 4-6pm!!

Megan & I have been very busy trying to make FosterKidsUnite, Inc. a reality! We are in the mist of things but lets just say we are on our way! We also welcome Judy and Sara as new board members and we thank Iris and Tati for being willing to help us! I remember when my brother passed away 5 years ago, June 10th,( time is flying), I had no idea how I would start FosterKidsUnite with little or no money, can I say, God always sends me angels with big hearts & pocketbooks!

If you ever have an idea, that will save or change a life, and you know God sent you the idea, ACT ON IT!! Don't be afraid to ask others for help! I am committed to providing non traditional services for foster and former foster youth. Non of my staff is taking a salary because this is God's work!

I have had people think that I was not smart for taking a salary but they don't know, in my life God comes first and then me! I am blessed to have many talents I can capitalize on, helping others through FosterKidsUnite, Inc. is not one of them! I am so glad that God has sent me Angels who not only support me, but feel the same way! Learn to help others because its the right thing to do, not because you can get rich! We are all one and if you don't have, I don't have...

Enjoy your Saturday. Learn to write down your goals and like me, you will be checking them off as complete one day!!

xo
Tanya
 

Nonprofit TV Show Found Causes "Foster Care"

God bless those that help others!

Figuring it out!

Hi blog family!!

HISTORY 101- "know your ancestors, then you will know what greatness you came from!" - Tanya

Do you see this great woman! An original "American"- Do you know what she went through and now life is better for us? I doubt she ever complained. Look at her carefully, you can see she comes from good stock and is very mentally and physically strong - nothing in this life can deter her, for she is a true warrior- like our ancestors...and no matter what happens physically in this life, as long as you have breath - you too are a warrior!!

It does not take much to figure out that YOU are a superstar waiting to shine!

How do we know this? Why am I having a hard time as a former foster figuring out where I belong in the world? Why don't things come easy for me? Why do I have no family and if I do, they are not reliable?

A lot of questions!! Hold your horses, lol !!

First: We are ALL in this world trying to figure out why we are here, (including your parents and family), why some were born with more than others and how that applies to US- it doesn't - don't worry about what someone else has- it has NOTHING to do with you!! We are each here for OUR OWN experience!!!! Some of us get guided by family friends, others, have to find their way - either way is ok IF you wake each day and LEARN a new lesson that gets you closer to the reason...ie, purpose.

No man woman boy or girl will escape reality of life, good and bad things happen to good people!
You may be a teen reading this living in a group home, you may be a house mom who use to be in foster care, you may be in a transitional home, does not matter- what you need to know is YOU HAVE DIVINE PURPOSE!!!

When I discovered that at an early age, I knew that even sexual abuse could not stop me from getting to my greatestness AND that once I found that greatness, I would be lead to helping, healing and saving others and get out of MYSELF!
I live everyday trying to figure out HOW to get to the next step that will lead me to my calling- I know it is helping others in foster care but way bigger than this!!

 I have had many downfalls, (epic fails as the teens say, lol), but I get back up each time, dust myself off, laugh and cry a little, then hit the road harder!!

You were chosen because God knew that YOU COULD handle it!!! Stop saying why me and say WHY NOT ME? No one is extinct from error, hurt, death, sickness and NO one is extinct from finding their GREATNESS that will help them help others move through this life!!

Everything material you see, its all an illusion, don't get caught up in the worldly assets, get caught up on how many lives you can save or change - that - will be your biggest success by helping others and sharing your truth!!

You are loved, divine and oh so needed!! xo
Tanya
PS. thanks for all your prayers, God is amazing, life is rewarding when we wake up and take it by the horns!! Wishing you the best for 2014
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Special Report: Ft. Hood Shooter Was on Cocktail of Psych Drugs

Hi blog family!



for those of  us on psychological  medication-

 I want you to remember therapy is most important -

you cannot get well without digging into your past and finding why we need medication or drugs to function daily! If our ancestors can survive Holocaust and Slavery- u can come through any dark period in your life!!

- please research and find a great therapist you trust. I am a big advocate of "talking" out your problems not medicating - which is done often with foster kids!!

 Protect your mind!!!

God has so much for you to do, you need to have a clear mind. Never listen to News or others DO YOUR OWN RESEARCH on what is real and what is not!! We have been programmed while in care- deprogram yourself and reach your full potential: eat healthy, protect your mind and exercise!



I want you to stop numbing your brain with video games and negative TV and start searching for healing alternatives, positive people, self help info!!

Have a great day and know you are special, loved and needed by the universe!!

xo

T

faith in hard times

SAVE THE DATE MAY 28TH!!!


hi blog family!
lol I feel a sermon coming on..
Seriously-
 life has been challenging this month for many that I know but I say - hold on help is on the way!

I am sure we have all been tested in our faith at some point - even being in and surviving foster care we must have had "faith" of some sort to have gotten through!
When I was in the height of my abuse as a kid, I always knew it would stop one day - I don't know how but my inner soul comforted me even at my most tortured times...Faith. Believing in the unknown or unseen- comfort, relief is coming...faith got me through AND I maintained my sanity!!

I talked with a few aged out youth this month who are going through rough times;  dropping out of school because of money issues, others entering back into society after incarceration and another not happy with their adopted parents because they don't feel supported. All understandable life challenges!! They are not alone and after all they have been through - I still commend them for starting each day new! When you are feeling down and like you are the only one things happen to have Faith...

We must remember that none of us on this earth is extinct from tragedy, illness, death and hard times!!
If we are to come out foster care and into the world to go on to our greatness - we must become "depression and oppression proof"- taking control of our destiny and our minds!! (this is not easy)

 we must focus on healing our inner selves with every self help book and video you can find!!

 I know for certain, God did not bring any of us this far....to leave us!!
 ("I don't feel no ways tired-come to far from where I started from, nobody told me that the road would be easy, I don't believe he bought me this far, too leave me") one of my favorite Baptist songs!

While I faced, (like many of you), neglect, abandonment, abuse, loneliness and my sibling dying early, I also faced mental growth, spiritual empowerment, (this does not mean you have to go to church-its from within not- tangible places like a church but inner peace that allows me to stop focusing on MY problems and turn to silence, meditation and prayer for healing that lets me help others on my journey of life. Life for anyone today, especially without family support, is hard, this is true.

a reporter once asked me how I got through what I survived and still be happy - I told her FAITH never left my mind and I knew God was by my side!"
"I do this everyday.. I wake...with FAITH! "
 Even if I went homeless, had no food, lost my family, I know that time heals ALL wounds and IF you wake the next day....their is hope to find all those things you lost. Only faith can create certainty in hard times!

Even when my brother died I thought the world ended but I found out it actually goes on even when WE hurt or don't' have!!
If I was ever going to lose faith, it would have been when I lost my baby brother who went to all the group homes/foster homes with me his whole life, (I went signed back into another at 18 because of abuse - but we were "family" to each other and I could not imagine life without him) but life still went on...even when I was distraught)

The key is to keep faith when you are at your lowest OR highest, knowing that "this too, shall pass" is the best quote ever for those who have been through something. We are all energy, moving changing, NOTHING stays the same!!!
That is good and that is what allows us to have faith, faith that things will turn around, faith that the evil in the world will be wiped out because of change, (not from us because we know the best revenge for your enemy....outliving them!!!

My foster mom use to say when I was mad at someone that did me wrong) "you don't ever have to get revenge Tan (my nickname she gave me sounds like Taun), just live long enough  and outlive your enemy, that is the best revenge!!"
I got that later in life - if you outlive them, your life and being able to move on to greatness, is the revenge, they did not stop you!!!
IF you are alive you are energy, energy is always moving and can always change....faith...

best advice for those struggling:

Please honor quiet time, God is always speaking to you guiding you but if you are always talking and listening to other noise, you won't hear YOUR message!!
I love being a Quaker for this reason, I learned to listen and spread my light from the message I receive.
We are all here for divine purpose- keep faith at ALL times.
While man is driving us all to a society that pops pills, does not value woman or children, murderous, slanderous and scandalous, know that God and the Universe will have the last say!!
 Don't get caught up in todays News, its all sad and bad, get caught up in having FAITH - that YOU can make a difference in a life, that you can reach out to others, that you are special because God brought you through and will keep bringing you through!!

 Humans think they know everything but if you keep faith in God, or something higher than you, you will see that "this too shall pass" - NOTHING stays the same and each day you wake- you can be better than yesterday!!! I am so grateful to all my blog viewers- help me spread the word faith!!xo

Tanya

 

smile someone is watching you! :)
Save the date May 28th 4-6pm

Groove Theory - Keep Tryin' ft. Sky Larrieux

to my blog family kids - keep trying- never give up!! xo

Pharrell Williams - Happy (1AM)