When you have done your work in past addiction and enter recovery, when you have said your sorry, said your peace and asked for forgiveness, don't allow anyone to hold you hostage UNLESS they sexually or physically abused you, then you can walk away and forgive but lose that dead weight.
YOU should NEVER have to be in a room with someone who sexually, physically or mentally abused you NEVER, unless YOU say so.
You don't owe an abuser anything nor your time or space, in fact, i would say get as fare away from them as you can, even if its your parents, siblings, (unless siblings was made to commit horror acts unwillingly and would be abused also IF they did not), that is up to you to forgive in that type of case.
If your parents were on drugs and they did not use you for drugs or abuse you, then it's up to you both to repair the relationship and start new.
Allow them time to get it right or atleast get it...if they ask and show you they are trying, work with them walk away and breath when you have to but don't hold them hostage when they are doing right...you are blessed to get a 2nd chance, I never got one....
sending love to all my orphans and those on their own due to dysfunctional family, God loves you and FKU loves you!!! Keep reaching for the stars, it is YOU that make the world bright!! xo
Tanya
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