This is a place where you can come for advice or a kind word. If you are in a group home, Foster care or had no family due to any circumstance, There are many things you may not have learned. I hope to motivate change in your life! If you have no family to inspire you on bad days, you may find something here to show you how to get out of your bubble and "take back your life! * These words are my opinions only and based on my 16 years in foster care! FosterKidsUniteInc@gmail.com
Thursday, March 27, 2014
Saturday, March 22, 2014
Friday, March 21, 2014
Life has a way of throwing us ALL a curve ball
Hi blog family!
a lot is on my heart today as I was told I have to have surgery ASAP to see what two black spots/growths are! Yes, I was scared when my doctor said the "C" word - I will not speak it, as it has killed many of our friends family and colleagues! No matter how healthy you try to be by eating and exercising- the C can still pop up out of no where!
As many of you know I had been living in an apartment over 18 years and got sick from the deadly mold! But when I think about it, I am nothing special so I am subject to environmental illness like anyone else!
I look at my friend recently who survived a double mastectomy! My other who went through prostate cancer, and my birth cousin recently succumbing to Cancer.. Ok, I said the word! It is everywhere but I refuse to let it or the possibility of it make me scared to live the life GOD intended for me!
My Curve ball life poem - This is nothing..
I decided that this is nothing for someone whose mother gave me away because of neglect
This is nothing compared to the many times I sat with my siblings so hungry, my stomach still growls!
This is nothing worse than when I found out my two foster brothers were monsters and sexually abused me for years, and then it was covered up, as if I was a hot 9 year old!
This "C" ain't nothing compared to thinking that I had love in my life, (my baby brother that stayed with me all my foster life), and then he died of heart disease on me at 41 !!
This is minor compared to when I was attacked randomly outside of NYU dorms over 25 years ago, before the central park jogger), luckily they could not get my belt off and thanks to my boyfriend at the time lending me that military belt, it saved my life, I was beaten for dead, in a coma, lost two nerves and a tenant in my hand BUT again, this was nothing....
This isn't nothing ...when I look back on when I faced homelessness after this incident, (could not model anymore with a cast on hand that had to be held up for almost a year!) .. not once but twice because I refused to go back to a home that held my abusers-
this is nothing for me to fight, as I have the most wonderful two girls in the world, (lol besides yours for all the moms)
This is nothing to fight for me, a former victim who has a voice, choice and a lot of work to do for foster kids!
Pray for me, pray for each other. Fosters AND adoptees must stand together, as you never know what life will bring in the form of a curve ball BUT if you have support - you can get through anything! I know because I am still here after the storms of life has hit me, (like you ), with MANY curve balls! Know that you have purpose and ALWAYS, even at the last hour, keep FAITH - u cannot live without faith- u will only survive but our goal for 2014 is to LIVE to the fullest!
Save the date for March 28th FREE event! I will post flyer soon and if all goes well, I will be up and running before that!! xo
Tanya
a lot is on my heart today as I was told I have to have surgery ASAP to see what two black spots/growths are! Yes, I was scared when my doctor said the "C" word - I will not speak it, as it has killed many of our friends family and colleagues! No matter how healthy you try to be by eating and exercising- the C can still pop up out of no where!
As many of you know I had been living in an apartment over 18 years and got sick from the deadly mold! But when I think about it, I am nothing special so I am subject to environmental illness like anyone else!
I look at my friend recently who survived a double mastectomy! My other who went through prostate cancer, and my birth cousin recently succumbing to Cancer.. Ok, I said the word! It is everywhere but I refuse to let it or the possibility of it make me scared to live the life GOD intended for me!
My Curve ball life poem - This is nothing..
I decided that this is nothing for someone whose mother gave me away because of neglect
This is nothing compared to the many times I sat with my siblings so hungry, my stomach still growls!
This is nothing worse than when I found out my two foster brothers were monsters and sexually abused me for years, and then it was covered up, as if I was a hot 9 year old!
This "C" ain't nothing compared to thinking that I had love in my life, (my baby brother that stayed with me all my foster life), and then he died of heart disease on me at 41 !!
This is minor compared to when I was attacked randomly outside of NYU dorms over 25 years ago, before the central park jogger), luckily they could not get my belt off and thanks to my boyfriend at the time lending me that military belt, it saved my life, I was beaten for dead, in a coma, lost two nerves and a tenant in my hand BUT again, this was nothing....
This isn't nothing ...when I look back on when I faced homelessness after this incident, (could not model anymore with a cast on hand that had to be held up for almost a year!) .. not once but twice because I refused to go back to a home that held my abusers-
this is nothing for me to fight, as I have the most wonderful two girls in the world, (lol besides yours for all the moms)
This is nothing to fight for me, a former victim who has a voice, choice and a lot of work to do for foster kids!
Pray for me, pray for each other. Fosters AND adoptees must stand together, as you never know what life will bring in the form of a curve ball BUT if you have support - you can get through anything! I know because I am still here after the storms of life has hit me, (like you ), with MANY curve balls! Know that you have purpose and ALWAYS, even at the last hour, keep FAITH - u cannot live without faith- u will only survive but our goal for 2014 is to LIVE to the fullest!
Save the date for March 28th FREE event! I will post flyer soon and if all goes well, I will be up and running before that!! xo
Tanya
Saturday, March 15, 2014
May 28th save the date!!! Foster Care Awareness Month
Hi Blog family!
As I hear many foster and former foster stories I am livid that more is not being done to get our kids out of group homes and into homes!! My partner and I are doing a FREE workshop at the Mount Kisco Public Library May 28th 4-6pm "Intervention for maternal loss and developmental trauma in adoption and foster Care" - Robert Hafetz; American Adoption Congress State Rep & Adoption Education Family Counseling LLC will be our workshop leader and speaker!! He will also do a book signing for his new book - "Not Remembered Never Forgotten" - Refreshments will be served RSVP tgirlcooper@yahoo,com - If you were ever adopted or wanting to adopt or work with foster and adopted- you don't want to miss this! ITs all about the healing and what you don't know - CAN hurt you or the kids you work with!!!
I am doing the work I was sent to do and I appreciate all the support and love from our community! God has much work for us to do together. I don't have much but with God I can do anything! I will not let money or people stop me from doing what I was called to do!
Teach your kids to help others, even when you don't have a lot, if you have a skill, use it! We can change the faces of foster care, one kid at a time!!
Tanya
As I hear many foster and former foster stories I am livid that more is not being done to get our kids out of group homes and into homes!! My partner and I are doing a FREE workshop at the Mount Kisco Public Library May 28th 4-6pm "Intervention for maternal loss and developmental trauma in adoption and foster Care" - Robert Hafetz; American Adoption Congress State Rep & Adoption Education Family Counseling LLC will be our workshop leader and speaker!! He will also do a book signing for his new book - "Not Remembered Never Forgotten" - Refreshments will be served RSVP tgirlcooper@yahoo,com - If you were ever adopted or wanting to adopt or work with foster and adopted- you don't want to miss this! ITs all about the healing and what you don't know - CAN hurt you or the kids you work with!!!
I am doing the work I was sent to do and I appreciate all the support and love from our community! God has much work for us to do together. I don't have much but with God I can do anything! I will not let money or people stop me from doing what I was called to do!
Teach your kids to help others, even when you don't have a lot, if you have a skill, use it! We can change the faces of foster care, one kid at a time!!
Tanya
Thursday, February 20, 2014
Taking action when your chips are down
I'm feeling like a Quala Bear today! lol
I was sharing my dream with a friend and they so believed in me, they signed me up for a comedy class i needed to get back in the game! I say all this to say...
its ok to share your dreams, sometimes when you have NO family support, it may be your friends or a stranger that you shared with that will help you achieve!!
Have a great day and know you are special and loved!! Sharing is caring, caring is taking action, taking action...is doing it!!
Go out and do something to get closer to your dream, sign up for a class, ask for help, many scholarships out in this world for many things. Never take no for an answer!! Take action!!!
Save the date May 28th - Mt. Kisco Library - FosterKidsUnite will have speaker Robert Hafetz PHD. doing a workshop and book signing!!!! I will share the topic by next week. Adoption and Foster care - healing from Trauma - you don't want to miss this!!
Tanya
Friday, February 14, 2014
Happy Valentines Day thanks for the love
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY BLOG FAMILY!!!
I am hoping you are all well. I have been a busy girl planning another free event for May National Foster Care Awareness Month! Save the end of the month for us. This year we have speaker PhD. Robert Hafetz doing a one hour workshop and speaking on : "Interventions for Maternal Loss and Developmental Trauma in Adoption and Foster Care"
I WILL LET YOU KNOW WHEN I HAVE A SOLID DATE, IT WILL BE AT THE MOUNT KISCO PUBLIC LIBRARY AGAIN!!
One person at a time we will reach one foster kid, teach those who work with foster and adoptee's and teach them all to PAY IT FORWARD - THIS IS THE ONLY WAY TO ADD MORE LOVE IN THIS WORLD BY HELPING OTHERS!
FosterKidsUnite with the help of St. Joseph's Seniors, was able to provide 10 gift boxes to aged out foster kids in college!!
THANK YOU ST. JOSEPH SENIORS!! YOU ARE DOING AMAZING WORK AND WE ALL THANK YOU, SOMEONE WILL HAVE A BETTER LIFE BECAUSE YOU TOOK TIME!!XO
TANYA
I am hoping you are all well. I have been a busy girl planning another free event for May National Foster Care Awareness Month! Save the end of the month for us. This year we have speaker PhD. Robert Hafetz doing a one hour workshop and speaking on : "Interventions for Maternal Loss and Developmental Trauma in Adoption and Foster Care"
I WILL LET YOU KNOW WHEN I HAVE A SOLID DATE, IT WILL BE AT THE MOUNT KISCO PUBLIC LIBRARY AGAIN!!
One person at a time we will reach one foster kid, teach those who work with foster and adoptee's and teach them all to PAY IT FORWARD - THIS IS THE ONLY WAY TO ADD MORE LOVE IN THIS WORLD BY HELPING OTHERS!
FosterKidsUnite with the help of St. Joseph's Seniors, was able to provide 10 gift boxes to aged out foster kids in college!!
THANK YOU ST. JOSEPH SENIORS!! YOU ARE DOING AMAZING WORK AND WE ALL THANK YOU, SOMEONE WILL HAVE A BETTER LIFE BECAUSE YOU TOOK TIME!!XO
TANYA
Saturday, January 25, 2014
Thursday, January 23, 2014
New Beginnings
Hi blog family!
life is moving so fast, I often feel like I'm in a race!! No worries, I am able to keep up, even if I lag behind, I will catch up! Do you ever feel like your on a spinning wheel, your the RAT, that keeps running in circles? Welcome to the club! lol
I want you to go into the new year knowing that WE SHALL OVERCOME!!!!! Dr. King must have been psychic as he said In this quote - a truth that all older people seem to know. I know life is stressful, at times tedious, grueling, cruel and occasionally sprinkled with wonderful, peaceful and loving....NOT...lol but all things pass in time! No matter how bad today, IF you start again and live, all things pass!!
The New Year is about bringing forth all of your DREAMS, wiping old Slates away, getting rid of negative energy, (people, places and thangs...yes, I said thangs for things) :) - keep in mind I am a comedian, I can laugh at ANYTHING - yes, I have foster care jokes too!!! for the new year learn to laugh and be the best you can be - you come from the greatest stock in the world - xo Tanya
life is moving so fast, I often feel like I'm in a race!! No worries, I am able to keep up, even if I lag behind, I will catch up! Do you ever feel like your on a spinning wheel, your the RAT, that keeps running in circles? Welcome to the club! lol
I want you to go into the new year knowing that WE SHALL OVERCOME!!!!! Dr. King must have been psychic as he said In this quote - a truth that all older people seem to know. I know life is stressful, at times tedious, grueling, cruel and occasionally sprinkled with wonderful, peaceful and loving....NOT...lol but all things pass in time! No matter how bad today, IF you start again and live, all things pass!!
The New Year is about bringing forth all of your DREAMS, wiping old Slates away, getting rid of negative energy, (people, places and thangs...yes, I said thangs for things) :) - keep in mind I am a comedian, I can laugh at ANYTHING - yes, I have foster care jokes too!!! for the new year learn to laugh and be the best you can be - you come from the greatest stock in the world - xo Tanya
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